What am i working so hard for?

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Is it normal for someone in their early 40s to have built up a career and considerable wealth for no reason? (no wife, children, etc.) Working hard for nothing? Not even retirement? I have nothing to look forward to except 30-40 more years of being depressed and alone, watching my health deteriorate. Doesn't make sense. I feel like I'm fulfilling the role of another man who is saving for his and his wife's retirement, and his childrens' college education.

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FromTheSouthWeirdMan

4 years ago

Why dont you find a good wife to enjoy it with?

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- d0esnormalmatter
  
  4 years ago
  
  Because then you gave to quit tinder
  
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  - FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    
    4 years ago
    
    But hes old anyway. Time to settle down.
    
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    - d0esnormalmatter
      
      4 years ago
      
      He has nothing to settle down from.
      
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      - FromTheSouthWeirdMan
        
        4 years ago
        
        Has to settle down from all the masturbation
        
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        d0esnormalmatter
        
        4 years ago
        
        Lol doubt it. Masterbating gets old. Kinda has for me already tbh although porn addiction this summer likely caused that.
        
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LornaMae

4 years ago

I don't see anything wrong with that. I'm mid-forties and that's how I've chosen to live my life and I'm very content. Maybe you're missing rewarding work...? Is that possible?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  My work is very rewarding, but I have a hard time delegating because no one else can do the job right. So I end up doing everything myself. Not great for a work/life balance.
  
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McBean

4 years ago

For the immediate future, you need to lengthen your horizons. Look for an international work assignment, or responsibilities that involve considerable travel. In this way, you will be introduced to new people with aspirations more compatible to your own, which likely will be a catalyst to find a different but exciting course in your life.

Note: stay away from sex tourism in Thailand. This kind of shit leads to nowhere other than slow personal destruction.

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ellnell

4 years ago

You make your own meaning with life so find something you're passionate about.

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SkullsNRoses

4 years ago

40s is statistically the least happy decade- you have entered the “mid life slump”. I’d recommend looking at some self-help books aimed at people in your situation, you’re not alone.

Also to echo what others are saying find a cause you believe in and devote time to that for a sense of purpose.

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- LornaMae
  
  4 years ago
  
  Is it really? Damn, I'm so off then -- this has been the best time of my life.
  
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  - SkullsNRoses
    
    4 years ago
    
    Congratulations - you have beaten the system.
    
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    - LornaMae
      
      4 years ago
      
      Nah, I've just got a really good mood stabilizer and antidepressant. Hahaha
      
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Grunewald

4 years ago

Your thinking here is absolutely solid, OP. See it as a crossroads.

What are you going to do about this situation? Find a partner? Find other people to devote your resources to, who need them? Slow down and focus on work/life balance, knowing that you have all you need and don't have to spend every waking hour at work? Find a job that's more like a life mission than a job, and devote yourself to it? Continue as you are because you like it, and leave a massive legacy to a cause you care about in your will in the event that your life savings aren't eaten up by nursing home fees?

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- McBean
  
  4 years ago
  
  Ummm, nursing homes can be avoided with good planning for aging in place. You might find it interesting that in the U.S., many people like me already have self care details worked out for unassisted hospice when we are old pathetic geezers ready to croak. This is an expression of independent distain for outside help whether at exorbitant expense, or unsatisfactory care provided by a socialist government.
  
  Anyway, after studying freshman medical school textbooks, and nursing manuals, I have details worked out so that I can manage my world (injections, catheters, oxygen, blood test monitoring) from a hospital bed deployed at my own house. It's rather clever actually, and worked quite well in simulated testing. It is likely that in the next decade, hospice robots will become available for hire to augment the comfort of my final days.
  
  BTW, a pulse oximeter will relay it's signal to a PC to notify the proper people over the Internet after my heart has stopped. Just for fun, I have it programmed to leave a death post on IIN. You'll get to vote whether you think my life was a disgusting waste, or a worthwhile endeavor.
  
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  - Grunewald
    
    4 years ago
    
    Wow... good luck with all that. You sound more determined than most.
    
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    - McBean
      
      4 years ago
      
      Ya. I was the primary hospice caregiver for both my mother and later my wife. There's a certain uplifting completeness to giving the love you promised "in sickness" in your wedding vows. But when you're the last one, rising to the occasion with interesting gadgetry is a classy exit.
      
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Iszzy123

4 years ago

Marry homeless woman that’s what one guy did

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d0esnormalmatter

4 years ago

Man so many half empty people on here

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dimwitted

4 years ago

Find a cause you believe in and work for that.

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XYXY

4 years ago

Life is what you make it. Why don’t you want to meet someone?

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leggs91200

4 years ago

Don't get married, she will just up and leave one day, taking 1/2 your wealth.

That aside, being our age sucks cause yeah, we start to wonder what is even the point. At least money is not a concern for you though. Some people our age, like me, are pretty much broke and probably never will have anything more than outstanding debts

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- FromTheSouthWeirdMan
  
  4 years ago
  
  You gotta get that bitch to sign the prenup
  
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controversy

4 years ago

donate some to animals like stray dogs and cats.

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- FromTheSouthWeirdMan
  
  4 years ago
  
  I think they should donate dogs to homeless housing. Theres hungry homeless people and feral dogs also. Might as well kill two birds with one stone and feed the dogs to homeless people. They could even find a chinese chef to put together the tastiest dog recipe.
  
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  - raisinbran
    
    4 years ago
    
    Or feed the homeless to the dogs... works both ways.
    
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    - FromTheSouthWeirdMan
      
      4 years ago
      
      Zing
      
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Walk

4 years ago

Find someone, companionship is nice

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