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this post is to help help the incels that don't hate women to start dating.
| looks | 3 | |
| ability to hold meaningful conversation. | 9 | |
| to be funny | 4 | |
| to be genuinely sweet and nice | 17 | |
| confidence | 5 | |
| You must have looks, be social, confidant, funny, and sweet, to be considered at all | 8 | |
| other | 5 | |
| nothing can help if you don't have a girlfriend already | 4 |
Don't try to fake anything, if you build yourself up on a house of cards constructed on lies, everything can come crashing down. Be yourself, consider their feelings, don't make rash decisions, and overall be there for them if they need.
right you should be your self, but self improvement is good for everyone
Self improvement is good, but you have to be yourself to be happy. Lots of people put together a fake persona to try and be more successful or get people to like them, and you'll never be happy that way. Being a fake person to get people to like you will only attract people who wouldn't like you as a person if you were honest.
I bet most of the people who voted for 'sweet and nice' had an image of some cute bashful adorkable guy in their minds. But what if he's nothing like that? What if you picture the most cringy creepy looking guy you've ever seen? Would you honestly still vote for him?
Honestly, all of the above. I desire a partner who treats me well, is able to hold a meaningful conversation, makes me laugh, and is both attractive/confident.
I feel the last two are going to be controversial, so bear with me. In order to be in a sexual relationship with you, I need to be attracted to you. You don't have to be a model, but I appreciate effort. My current boyfriend is certainly not chiseled or over 6'0 but he makes my heart skip - and if people disagree with me I don't care.
As for confidence, too much self-hatred makes me feel like you need to take time learning to love yourself rather than learning to love someone else. Of course everyone has bad days, but if you /hate/ yourself I implore you to take a few months to work on that.
Beyond that I also like direction in a romantic partner? I have high ambitions, and I need someone who is at least able to keep up. That doesn't mean you need to be a CEO, though. My current boyfriend just wants to be a cop at this point which is a blue collar job, but he's passionate and has a goal in mind which I love.
Somewhere between being genuinely sweet and nice and being able to hold meaningful conversation.
For me it's smell. Stench is a deal-breaker, and a nice attractive smell would overlook a lot of personality flaws.
Especially oral hygiene.
What I find attractive is intelligence and a sense of humour. Yes there are many guys that i find physically attractive but most people I did love were not that attractive. I fell in love when talking to them.
Then there are basics like a good hygiene, respect for himself and others..
i love introverted guys.. often ones who think im out of their league.. i love to make them feel like they very much are in my league.. i love getting them to open up to me because their life isnt an open book and i love to read their secret novel of feelings and emotions because they feel comfortable to tell me. im a personality girl and i mean it would be nice to have this big macho guy, but those ones never interested me.. they're too full of themselves and cocky sometimes-- not saying they all are-- and they often care about themselves too much.. i love being able to be sexual with my person who is introverted because he releases this inner dominance that he doesnt always have outside the bedroom and i swear seeing someone like that is such a turn on and they also make you feel like there's so much more passion to it than just a hard fuck.. its fucking phenomenal. im speaking about one person from experience.. i couldnt imagine being with anyone else after him.. i wonder if all introverts are like this..
Nahhhhhh. That "be genuinely nice and sweet" stuff is bullshit. Women say they want that, but confidence, the ability to hold meaningful conversation and game are the main things.
I was surprised and very happy to see the "to be genuinely sweet and nice" option win out. Gives me some hope for our future as human beings.
This is kind of oversimplifying how emotional bonding between people works. Whats with all this incel crap on here lately? You have to go out and talk to strangers to get better at socializing. Many strangers will have unprotected sex with you, you just have to find them.