Weird situation after sex...iin?

Here's the deal. The guy is my co-worker and we both work in IT (we have a lot in common, plenty of common interest, job etc.) and we're both fairly young. We've known each other for a while and I totally adore him 'cause he is nice and handsome and all that stuff but recently I've got into this weird situation. We were hanging out at my place, we were flirting, he said he's in love with me and we had amazing sex (for the first time). I got sleepy (I always do after sex), so he kissed me on the cheek and asked if he could stay for the night. I said I wouldn't mind at all and there's a couch in the living room (which is comfortable) and he just said Ok and left my house. The next day he wouldn't even talk to me, making rude comments whenever I spoke (not even to him). All of our сo-workers had noticed that. I asked him in private why was he like that and he told me to take a guess. My question is what's going on? Is that because I wouldn't let him sleep in my bed, which is way too personal for me. None of my ex-boyfriends did and never had problems with that.

What do I do now? I really like him.

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  • It was too personal to let him sleep in your bed, but not too personal to screw him there. How lame. I would have left too. Except I would have said a hearty F.U. before I left though. It looks like you got screwed again.

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    • What the fuck are you retarded?! Dude she just want to sleeo alone, why is it a big deal?! not everyone wants to sleep with soneone and its not a love thing it's just that there are poeple not comfortable with co-sleeping, sex or no sex, love or no love.

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      • But it sounds very stupid. Hey, let's fuck on my bed in my bedroom, but I don't want for you to actually sleep in my bed because its too personal.... The fuck?

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    • I agree

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  • If you can't sleep in a guy's arms after sex, you shouldn't even be intimate. Buy a dildo and leave men alone forever.

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    • wtf?! she just want to sleep alone, you would be surprized the number of couples sleeping in different beds or even rooms and are happy with that.

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    • Don't be rude, you people are not committing to every single person you had sex with and here you are so sensitive, all of sudden. It's not like I told him to get the hell out of my house, I just offered him to rest on the sofa, because sleeping with someone is way too intimate for me

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      • Yea, because having sex isn't an intimate act in of itself.......... If you can't sleep with someone in the same bed, don't allow them to put their dick in you.

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      • Then wear a pair of panties to bed and fap. No hurt feelings.

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  • Okay regardless of whether or not it was rude or whatever to not let him sleep in your bed, it sounds like he's being a total dick about this. Like passive aggressively being really rude around you at work and telling you to "take a guess" at what's bothering him?? And after he said he "loved" you? I'd be pretty upset were I you. I'd say try to talk to him again, have a conversation about what's going on, state your side of things. And unless he he gets his act together, drop him, you don't have to put up with that kind of shit.

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  • I have a hard time believing your ex-boyfriends were cool with that. It sounds like you have really strange intimacy issues due to the fact that he wasn't just a one night stand..he was somebody your into. But he sounds like a pussy for not confronting you when it happened and instead acting like a little girl and being rude about it, fuck him (but not literally..thats too personal)

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    • I agree on everything other than he's acting like a girl. He's not, he's acting like a boy that is a loser whose being passive aggressive

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    • What do you mean intimacy issue? not ecerybody have the same intimacy, don't juge her for that man.

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  • You told him to go sleep on the sofa, you should have made it clear before you engaged in sex that you are uncomfortable or do not like people who you are not in a relationship sleep in the same bed as you after sex. You insulted him and hurt his feelings.

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  • This guy is not hapoy with something and instead of telling you he wants you to guess, that is wrong. the only thing you could do is telling him your guesses and when you find out explain to him your point of view. If it's tge bed, explain to him what you said here. It may be because you were sleepy, in that case explain to him that you are sleepy after sex. In any case, just make sure you understand eachothers! Good luck!

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    • Hold on now, I never thought me being sleepy could be the reason? Why would he be insulted by that?

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      • Because I, too, am sleepy aftersex, but my girlfriend did not understand that when we started dating. I don't know why but some people think it's a big deal...

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  • I hope he shat on your couch and in your work shoes and that he stole food out your fridge

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