Yes, this was harrassment. I think you should of been more firm with him, though. He may of thought you were playing "hard to get" due to you laughing and joking about it. Next time you see him, don't joke, don't play around, firmly tell him that he was sexually harrassing you. To him, he might of thought you didn't mind due to the whole joking around thing, but that doesn't make it your fault simply due to the fact you didn't want to get him angry or insulted. Tell him next time firmply, so that he realized that you definetly didn't want it, he may of thought you did.
I mean, I know what you're saying is the truth, but the way I saw it at the time, there were no security cameras, no witnesses, we were underground and no one could hear me scream and he could have just as easily told a different story if I did say straight out "no". I pushed him off, and I thought he got the message, but I guess I was wrong. His breath was nasty as fuck by the way.
You have to consider the idea that not all men coming on to you are going to rape you if you said no. I understand there is a risk of it happening, but don't straight away assume. Although, it was a possibility, and nobody would notice, you should tell him the next day in an area that has cameras that he was harrassing you. Tell him you understand that he may not of meant it in a harrassing way, but that's how it felt, and you didn;t want to be serious and thought saying no in a joke form was enough for him to stop. You don't know, maybe he might feel appauled at what he done after realizing you felt about it this way.
If I have to see him again, I'll be sure to tell him. Since it's not my post, I'm not really allowed to patronize it unless I am on the clock there - it's a weird liability rule that security company's have.
The problem was that he was getting physical, I understand that most men that come on to me are not going to rape me as I've been in the situation before and I was able to just joke it out with them and turn them down whilst saving them some... erm... pride I guess you could say, but once he grabbed me and made it necessary that I push him off, in my head, anything could have been possible.
That said, if I ever have to work the post again, I'll have to balls up and tell him. I try to be friendly because I understand that some of the men that I deal with are mentally strange but that obviously won't work with more aggressive men...
I've considered it. The LOL I'm sorry but I'm married approach worked in the past, but I'm going to try not to be reassigned there again. I've never had a problem this bad with men at work before and usually I can just laugh it off and they get it =/
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Yes, this was harrassment. I think you should of been more firm with him, though. He may of thought you were playing "hard to get" due to you laughing and joking about it. Next time you see him, don't joke, don't play around, firmly tell him that he was sexually harrassing you. To him, he might of thought you didn't mind due to the whole joking around thing, but that doesn't make it your fault simply due to the fact you didn't want to get him angry or insulted. Tell him next time firmply, so that he realized that you definetly didn't want it, he may of thought you did.
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I mean, I know what you're saying is the truth, but the way I saw it at the time, there were no security cameras, no witnesses, we were underground and no one could hear me scream and he could have just as easily told a different story if I did say straight out "no". I pushed him off, and I thought he got the message, but I guess I was wrong. His breath was nasty as fuck by the way.
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You have to consider the idea that not all men coming on to you are going to rape you if you said no. I understand there is a risk of it happening, but don't straight away assume. Although, it was a possibility, and nobody would notice, you should tell him the next day in an area that has cameras that he was harrassing you. Tell him you understand that he may not of meant it in a harrassing way, but that's how it felt, and you didn;t want to be serious and thought saying no in a joke form was enough for him to stop. You don't know, maybe he might feel appauled at what he done after realizing you felt about it this way.
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If I have to see him again, I'll be sure to tell him. Since it's not my post, I'm not really allowed to patronize it unless I am on the clock there - it's a weird liability rule that security company's have.
The problem was that he was getting physical, I understand that most men that come on to me are not going to rape me as I've been in the situation before and I was able to just joke it out with them and turn them down whilst saving them some... erm... pride I guess you could say, but once he grabbed me and made it necessary that I push him off, in my head, anything could have been possible.
That said, if I ever have to work the post again, I'll have to balls up and tell him. I try to be friendly because I understand that some of the men that I deal with are mentally strange but that obviously won't work with more aggressive men...
I've considered it. The LOL I'm sorry but I'm married approach worked in the past, but I'm going to try not to be reassigned there again. I've never had a problem this bad with men at work before and usually I can just laugh it off and they get it =/