Yes, that is harassment. You were put in a situation that scared you. Maybe he could argue there are extenuating circumstances and that his personal life is making him act out of character, and maybe that's true, but it's not really your problem.
One thing I will definitely *NOT* tell you is that it was your fault. You were being friendly. There are plenty of women I'm on a very friendly basis with at work. But the key word is "friendly". It's derived from the word "friend". That's where it stays. I have actually been propositioned at work but it in no way made me feel threatened so there's nothing to report. Your situation is different.
Whether you put it down to a mistake and warn him that any further behaviour like that will be reported, or whether you pre-empt it and go straight for the report, is up to you. You shouldn't be put in that position. It may not be deliberate harassment, but you felt harassed; and for pretty solid reasons.
I just feel like I didn't resist hard enough, or maybe I should have known beforehand. I don't want to report him and get him into trouble with his wife, I think I might ask not to be sent there again. This is the 2nd time this has happened at a temporary work place.
By the way, I reformatted it. I meant for it to be a poll. An IIN question would have been odd, as I didn't ask for normality.
You shouldn't have to "resist". You should expect to be able to have cordial relations with someone of the opposite sex without it being construed as an invitation for it to be something more. If you were outright flirting, fair enough. But you weren't.
I know...
It's just odd... It hasn't happened to me at work before and while I am friendly to him, I don't flirt with him, I hardly know his name. Thanks for the advice.
In the future, kick him in the balls... men hate that. Just like you hate being raped. Which is why it's rape. Because you didn't ask for it. Right there's your answer: you didn't ask for it, therefore, it is rape.
No matter what the situation is, you will always feel like you could have done more afterwards. I did resist when I was assaulted, and still thought it was my fault because I could've bit his thing off and didn't because I was afraid to.
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Yes, that is harassment. You were put in a situation that scared you. Maybe he could argue there are extenuating circumstances and that his personal life is making him act out of character, and maybe that's true, but it's not really your problem.
One thing I will definitely *NOT* tell you is that it was your fault. You were being friendly. There are plenty of women I'm on a very friendly basis with at work. But the key word is "friendly". It's derived from the word "friend". That's where it stays. I have actually been propositioned at work but it in no way made me feel threatened so there's nothing to report. Your situation is different.
Whether you put it down to a mistake and warn him that any further behaviour like that will be reported, or whether you pre-empt it and go straight for the report, is up to you. You shouldn't be put in that position. It may not be deliberate harassment, but you felt harassed; and for pretty solid reasons.
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I just feel like I didn't resist hard enough, or maybe I should have known beforehand. I don't want to report him and get him into trouble with his wife, I think I might ask not to be sent there again. This is the 2nd time this has happened at a temporary work place.
By the way, I reformatted it. I meant for it to be a poll. An IIN question would have been odd, as I didn't ask for normality.
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You shouldn't have to "resist". You should expect to be able to have cordial relations with someone of the opposite sex without it being construed as an invitation for it to be something more. If you were outright flirting, fair enough. But you weren't.
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I know...
It's just odd... It hasn't happened to me at work before and while I am friendly to him, I don't flirt with him, I hardly know his name. Thanks for the advice.
In the future, kick him in the balls... men hate that. Just like you hate being raped. Which is why it's rape. Because you didn't ask for it. Right there's your answer: you didn't ask for it, therefore, it is rape.
No matter what the situation is, you will always feel like you could have done more afterwards. I did resist when I was assaulted, and still thought it was my fault because I could've bit his thing off and didn't because I was afraid to.