Was i too mean in this question?

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I recommend reading this post I made first before answering this one:

https://www.isitnormal.com/post/is it normal i--m-worried-about-my-grandma-moving-in--273798

But basically I just listed my concerns and things I thought I would have trouble getting used to when my grandma moved in, and the backlash was much worse than I thought. I put a part at the end saying it might not be as bad as I thought, but I still got people calling me selfish and I was surprised at the confusion about me having trouble with Ashes. I’m not trying to say my grandma is wrong in any of these things, I just wanted help on getting used to these things, but I guess I didn’t do a good job of explaining it. I just have a hard time with change, which this year has been full of for me, and I do wish for everything to go well, I guess I put too much emphasis on myself. Basically, I just wanted advice on how to get used to certain things that were troubling me, but perhaps thinking of myself was a bit self centered. I really do try to be a nice guy, but my emotions sometimes lead me to say things that I don’t realize are hurtful. Sorry if that’s what happened here.

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  • charli.m
    5 years ago

    It was. You're young, but you're also old enough to give a fuck about people other than yourself - particularly an elderly grandparent who probably can't live independently anymore and is going through not only the grief of losing her life partner, but also facing her own mortality and probably illnesses.

    When/if it's you and your mother in that situation, how would you feel about a self centred brat grandchild being snotty about your mother's existence?

    No one has any respect for anyone else nowadays. I don't understand the complete lack of compassion for a relative.

    I moved back in with my grandmother three years ago to help care for her and to keep her living at home, semi independently, as long as possible. She and I may have our differences at times, no one's perfect, but I can't imagine just putting myself first. I hate change, too, fyi, and I have had a fucktonne of shit to deal with in the last four years. I gave up a lot to come back to live with her. So did my mother. But it benefits all three of us, particularly her.

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    • Hubbard
      5 years ago

      I spent all day up north helping my mom bring her stuff home. I’m over it now. I’m ok with her coming here.

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