Using illness to control an ex

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My partner's ex was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago. My partner found out through family, and has tried to be supportive. Now the ex has stated that unless the partner stops seeing me treatment will be stopped. Their relationship ended many years ago, we have been together for about 5 years but now can only stay in contact by phone, with no time frame in sight (who knows how long treatment will take?). The treatment so far has been surgery and is now adjuvent chemotherapy.

Is it normal to feel so angry and uncharitable about the ex? I am sorry about the cancer and stuff but does that mean I have to wait by the sidelines as a secret until they get the all clear?

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  • cupcake_wants
    9 years ago

    that's just f'king STUPID. that's like saying they'll kill themself which is just plain retarded. no wonder your s.o. broke up with them.

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    Emotional blackmail. If she wants to stop treatment then it's her call. Personally I'd be trying to save my life not gamble on it on the strength of an ex....

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    just let her die, np

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  • blaaacksheep
    14 years ago

    Cancer or what, the girl's a bitch.

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  • SweetAdeline
    14 years ago

    If your boyfriend is falling for that crap that his ex is saying, then he's not too bright. Plus, he shouldn't be dumping his personal problems on you, and why is he even communicating with his ex? Dump him.

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  • Passionate
    14 years ago

    keep seeing your boyfriend and see which the ex values more , your boyfriend or her life. =) cheer up

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    nobody's going to skip their treatments to get their way. your boyfriend should call the ex's bluff.

    don't waste time on a man who is still so connected with the ex.

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  • ComboBreaker
    14 years ago

    Wow, thats is silly. You are silly for agreeing with it and your partner is silly for it too. Sometimes you have to be cold. Yeah its a bad thing the ex has cancer, but thats no excuse for seperating you and your partner. If i was you or your ex i honestly wouldnt hesitate calling the ex a childish fuck in their face and telling them no. Its exactly like a child holding their breth because they dont get what they want. Dont react to the childs actions, eventuly the ex will be in so much pain that they would wish to have the treatment. IF it's to late? Its there fault that they diddnt go threw with it. Dont you even dare to think that any of its is your nor your partners fault! Let the child die from stuborness. Oh BTW depending on the treatment, it dosnt just stop. It goes on until they die. If i where you i would tell the stupid ex stright that you're going to see your partner and that if he dies then its his own fucking fault.

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    • ComboBreaker
      14 years ago

      Sorry, last part should be if they die then it's their own fucking fault.

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  • logchuck
    14 years ago

    just lie to him so he gets through it

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