Upset over last name change with marriage

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Is it normal to be upset over having to change your last name when you get married? I have been married for a month and I still get terrified when I think of changing my last name. I love my husband more than anything but his family hates me because I am a different religion.

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  • youmightembarrass
    10 years ago | pl

    umm
    you don't HAVE to change it

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    10 years ago | pl

    So you married into a family with a different religion that now hates you because of it.....smart move.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago | pl

      Unless the couple is religious it shouldn't matter. My husband and I were raised different religions but we are agnostic/atheist so it doesn't matter at all. Plus, a lot of people could care less if their inlaws like them or not, as long as their significant other loves them.

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  • VioletTrees
    10 years ago | pl

    You don't have to change it at all. If you don't want to change it, don't.

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  • Justsomejerk
    10 years ago | pl

    You could hyphenate.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago | pl

    I just got engaged and I HATE my fiance's last name, but I can't see us with different last names. He won't take mine though :(

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  • elenaki
    10 years ago | pl

    If his name is weird or sounds weird with your name, don't change it. I don't think it's such a big deal. I'm probably keeping my name when I get married.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    10 years ago | pl

    Chances are I won't change my name if I ever get married. My name is very special to me because of its meaning.

    If someone comes along whose last name will make my name even more special, I might not be able to say no.

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  • charli.m
    10 years ago | pl

    Like others have said, you are not legally obligated to change your name.

    Personally, I don't want to get married, but I DO want to change my name to my partner's name. Which I can do, provided I end up with a partner that doesn't think that's too weird :-S

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago | pl

    I wonder if a woman ever married a man JUST to get his name...

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  • wigsplitz
    10 years ago | pl

    I didn't change mine officially but I use his name anyway except when I file taxes, then I have to use my legal name.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago | pl

    You don't have to. My mum didn't take on my dad's surname. It's even more normal nowadays not to.

    If I get married, I would never wish for any poor girl to have my awkward surname forced upon her...

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago | pl

    It's normal. You don't have to change it if you don't want to or like Justsomejerk said, you can get them hyphenated.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago | pl

    I feel the same because I have a unique last name, and my bf has a very generic last name. Like the kind you see in examples on credit card aplications.

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