Update on bf angry b/c i beat him at wrestling

Only submitting this here in new category b/c for some reason when I go to "reply" to messages it keeps telling me to log in even tho' i already have! Grrr...anyone else having this problem?

anyway, for those who were following the drama, my BF insisted on a rematch, saying he didn't try hard the first time, he was going easy on me b/c i'm a girl, etc., and I finally gave in and said "fine, but you need to know I'm not going to go easy on you, and YOU'RE the one at a disadvantage b/c I know Judo and you don't...and you need to be more mature about it if you lose again."

So: He agreed and we wrestled again at my apt. b/c I have a mat there I use to practice my rolls and stuff...and it was much like the first time...he tried to overpower me but i kept moving and ducking and tripping him to the floor to get him tired, and finally after letting him get in close and flipping him across my hip he landed really hard and was totally out of breath so I said "OK, lets just stop b4 someone gets hurt", and he said he just needed a minute to catch his breath, and I said "fine, I'll fix my hair (b/c my ponytail was coming loose and my hair is long and was getting in my eyes), and while I'm doing that he attacked me from behind while I had my back turned and threw me down and tried to pin me!

So as youmight guess I was really pissed, so I got behind him on the mat and got hold of his arm at the elbow and put him into a "gamate", which is a joint lock, and grabbed his wrist and started bending it back--which can be realy painful--and I said "Do you give up?" over and over until he said "Yes, i give up..stop!" and I let him go.

Then i tried to make him apologize for attacking me from behind (while i was doing him a favor letting him catch his breath) but he refused and then accused ME of cheating b/c we "agreed to a wrestling match, not Judo" so b/c I didn't technically "pin" him, he wouldn't agree I won.

So i basically said 'just get out--I'm thru w/you', and he said 'no way', and I said I can either call the cops and have them kick you out or I can kick your ass myself and do it that way', and he looked like he wanted to kill me but we both knew if he attacked me again I would have mopped the floor w/him so he left.

Do i give him a chance to collect himself and apologize or dump him for good? My inclination is to dump him for good--but maybe I humiliated him too much and pride wouldnt let him say "sorry." I realize now how fragile men's egos are!

anyway that's the latest.

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  • "Jennie", why have you spent the past two years recycling and reposting different versions of this story on various websites?

    Examples:
    She agrees to the rematch and beats him at her place--just the two of them.
    Then, in another version, she beats him in front of others.
    She ends the rematch by throwing him in one version, then by putting him into a joint lock in another.
    And the dialogue is different, too...again, depending on which version you read.

    I'm not saying this couldn't happen, but sheesh...spare me!
    (Google boyfriend judo ego or jennie judo ego and you'll see what I mean.)

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  • Almost doesn't sound real :P

    Not all men but yes, fragile ego's indeed!
    He sounds very petty here though, I'd say you can give him another chance if you still want to be with him after all this.

    Good luck and thanks for the update!

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  • Pi, you gotta go back and read her previous story:
    http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-that-my-bf-is-furious-that-i-can-beat-him-at-wrestling-35223/

    I dunno Jennie, this is a tough one. It depends on how much you care about the guy otherwise. He has a huge ego but that doesn't mean he's a bad guy in other areas right? That ego though....I just wonder how many problems it would cause you in the future. It doesn't seem to me like you really love him that much anyways since you are able to just let him go like that. Which is fine and normal, I mean I don't know how long you've been dating.

    I'd say if he doesn't come back with a damn good apology and a promise to keep that ego in check, you should just let it go and find someone more secure in their masculinity. I think my boyfriend would think it was hot and awesome if I could fight like that. He's an engineer and pretty smart and knowledgable but he doesn't get all whiny when I outsmart him or am able to fix something or solve a problem before he is. He thinks it's cool and is impressed by my intelligence because he wants me to be his equal. See what I'm getting at. Anyways, hope it works out either way!

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    • Apologies Jen.

      He does come across from what you say as pretty immature. If he isn't mature enough to discuss it with you, then maybe it's just not meant to be.

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  • Is this serious?

    Girl, you got big issues.

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  • He couldn't overpower you? He's soft for a man?

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  • Funniest story ever

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  • I know that there are many women who could kick my ass. Doesn't mean that I'd be comfortable with being with a girl like that. What's more emasculating than the girl being able to kick my ass?

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  • Your boyfriend needs to learn to deal with it. There would be no point in anyone male or female learning a martial art if it didn't allow them to beat a bigger stronger opponent. You have spent the time to learn a martial art and you have learnt it to a sufficient level to be able to beat him despite his strength advantage. He should admire your skill and give up on the idea that your relationship can only progress if he can beat you. If he can't then there are a lot of other guys that will think differently and quite a lot who will get turned on by the idea of a girlfriend who can overpower them.

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  • ok u shouldnt are that muh im a guy i dont care if a girl can over power me and i practice mma but its rather childish on both ur parts do u care if hes no man enough t edmit that he got beatn but on the other hand y do u care so much if hes a sore loser

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  • I just can't help thinking that if he get's that pissed at something so trivial, how the hell can he be reasonable in other areas where it really does matter? His being a male shouldn't (in my humble opinion) give him an excuse to such childishness. The very fact that this has become such a big issue and you're thinking of breaking up with him for good is an indication that something can't be right. I say break up with him. It's your call though.

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  • i'll smash you. women are inferior to men.

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