Unprotected sex my first time

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I am 29years old woman who just devirginized by my boyfriend we've been together for 3months now. We are In same age. I made a big mistake that i didnt use protection! He used the pulled out method and we had sex the day right after my period and the month after i had my period on time. obviously im safe from pregnancy then we hadnt have sex for 1month after out first time. He told me he doesnt like using condom so i got birth control pills.

I told my girlfriend about not using protection she was really upset and got me thinking i made a big mistake its not only just pregnancy that i should be scared of but all sexually disease that is high-risking to get them. Now i am so paranoid that im going to get myself check for HIV and other stuffs. And all of sudden i talked to my boyfriend out of this that we need to use condom and birth control from now on. I wont put myself in risk anymore. I Also asked him about his previous relationship. Is it normal to feel terrified? I feel like a loser since i had been careful about this stuff my whole life and i missed it big time!

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  • PumpkinKate
    11 years ago | pl

    For condomless sex:

    If you don't want to get pregnant, get on the pill.

    If you have a committed partner whom you trust, and aren't sleeping with other people yourself, simply go and get an STD test together.

    That's all you really need. Well, that and a towel, unless you like cleaning your sheets every single time you do it. But you're not a loser, or silly, or anything. It's not a big deal, but you were erring on the side of caution, which is commendable :)

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  • Ryan556
    11 years ago | pl

    Haha I technically didn't have any protection mainly cause well il spare you the story but long story short I fucked a girl well sleeping at a sleapover and chumed
    anyway the pullout method dosent work tell him to wear a condom take it from the guy with the weirdest first time ever

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  • MNT
    11 years ago | pl

    Thanks u guys for information. Its really helpful. :) so i got myself check today at planned parenthood to give myself a peace of mind. Result will be out in2weeks. I definitely will continue on birth control pill and of course condom is needed. I talked my guy out about using condom from now and he's ok with it. Anyway he insisted that he's clean i shouldnt be worried about those things well i pissed him off but i just want to make sure.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago | pl

    How exactly is your boyfriend going to give you an STD?

    You said he was a virgin. Is he sleeping around with other women? Is he having sex with other men? Is he doing IV drugs?

    I mean sure if you want to get tested fine but... I'm wondering how you think you'll get an STD from a faithful partner who's never been with anyone else?

    So if you are faithful to each other you don't need to worry about STDs. Assuming you can trust him of course. But there's the catch... if you can't trust him... why would you be with him in the first place.

    I mean sure, be sensible about STDs but... don't be insane either.

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    • MNT
      11 years ago | pl

      Thank you for your comment. Really appreciated your time. My grammar was wrong. Im the one who was virgin. I do trust him he said he clean and never use drug and only had long term relationship before me,but he might not know what is in him? I. made a big mistake not using protection. Am i freak out too much?

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        11 years ago | pl

        To be honest... if you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you can trust him then yes... you may be over-worrying about STDs.

        Although getting tested isn't bad. especially if it gives you peace of mind.

        What you want to think about is this... for when you stop using the pill.

        1) If you go off the pill wait 2-3 cycles before trying to get pregnant. Sometimes a woman's body will end up dropping more eggs during that time as the hormones balance out.

        2) Depending on your cycle, the day after your period could still be a day of fertility. So don't always "bank" on that being safe.

        3) pulling out isn't 100% either. I mean it's better than not pulling out but the precum CAN have sperm in it still.

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