As someone who was sexually abused as a child, I, too would like to know what urge you're talking about. As for your sister, I would strongly advise against trying to go into detail about the incidents for the simple reason that at the time you abused her, you, as her older (or so it sounds like) brother, had the power in the situation. At any rate, for this to have happened, she must have felt powerless - so allow her the chance to control this situation now, and help her regain a sense of control over her own life by doing so. Ultimately you've done what you can - and I have to say, it's a lot more than most abusers would do, so kudos for that. But now she has to go through the process of her own healing which, while it may never be complete, may reach a point where she can try to speak to you again in future. I like the other poster's idea about the life insurance, but something that would be more immediately useful would be if you could pay for her to see a psychologist or other such professional. Finding someone trained in EMDR really helped me - HUGELY. This stuff isn't something that fixes itself, and the damage varies not only with what actually took place, but also her age at the time. Good luck.
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As someone who was sexually abused as a child, I, too would like to know what urge you're talking about. As for your sister, I would strongly advise against trying to go into detail about the incidents for the simple reason that at the time you abused her, you, as her older (or so it sounds like) brother, had the power in the situation. At any rate, for this to have happened, she must have felt powerless - so allow her the chance to control this situation now, and help her regain a sense of control over her own life by doing so. Ultimately you've done what you can - and I have to say, it's a lot more than most abusers would do, so kudos for that. But now she has to go through the process of her own healing which, while it may never be complete, may reach a point where she can try to speak to you again in future. I like the other poster's idea about the life insurance, but something that would be more immediately useful would be if you could pay for her to see a psychologist or other such professional. Finding someone trained in EMDR really helped me - HUGELY. This stuff isn't something that fixes itself, and the damage varies not only with what actually took place, but also her age at the time. Good luck.