I can't really give you advice because for 4 years, between the time I was 9-13, my older brother molested me. Because of this, I am emotionally damaged & although I've handled it a lot better than most people have, I'll never be the same. You don't move on from this, you don't get over this, you don't accept this. I've never been close w/ my brother, this isn't the only reason, but when we are around each other, it is very uncomfortable for both of us. He has been having emotional problems his entire life & does drugs as well & is constantly drunk. My question for you, if you know the answer, is why did you molest your sister? I don't want to put you down in any way, I just want to know. My mom believes that people who molest people have been molested themselves. My grandfather was a child molestor, apparently of both females & males, & my mom believes he molested my brother, which may be a reason for my brother molesting me. I don't know what you're going through, but I do know what your sister is going through & I can say that even though she may be upset w/ you & hurt by you & that hurt will never go away, she'll always love you because you're her brother. Just keep your head up & hope that your sister comes around.
I dont know excactly why I did it, I think there was just an urge that I did not deal with properly. I grew up in a big family (9 kids) I guess I have been really hard on myself about this my whole life instead of focusing on healing. I have tried to run from it and not talk about it and it literally has caused me to be institutionalized the guilt and shame of it. I would give anything to go back and undue it but I guess I just have to accept that I cant and move on from here. I dont know though maybe talking about it isnt the right thing to do either as it may be just too uncomfortable for my sister.
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I can't really give you advice because for 4 years, between the time I was 9-13, my older brother molested me. Because of this, I am emotionally damaged & although I've handled it a lot better than most people have, I'll never be the same. You don't move on from this, you don't get over this, you don't accept this. I've never been close w/ my brother, this isn't the only reason, but when we are around each other, it is very uncomfortable for both of us. He has been having emotional problems his entire life & does drugs as well & is constantly drunk. My question for you, if you know the answer, is why did you molest your sister? I don't want to put you down in any way, I just want to know. My mom believes that people who molest people have been molested themselves. My grandfather was a child molestor, apparently of both females & males, & my mom believes he molested my brother, which may be a reason for my brother molesting me. I don't know what you're going through, but I do know what your sister is going through & I can say that even though she may be upset w/ you & hurt by you & that hurt will never go away, she'll always love you because you're her brother. Just keep your head up & hope that your sister comes around.
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I dont know excactly why I did it, I think there was just an urge that I did not deal with properly. I grew up in a big family (9 kids) I guess I have been really hard on myself about this my whole life instead of focusing on healing. I have tried to run from it and not talk about it and it literally has caused me to be institutionalized the guilt and shame of it. I would give anything to go back and undue it but I guess I just have to accept that I cant and move on from here. I dont know though maybe talking about it isnt the right thing to do either as it may be just too uncomfortable for my sister.