Traveling soldier.

My husband is a soldier deployed and has been since Nov. 2008. We have only been married for 5 months (got married on his mid-tour leave) I am a very faithful Army Wife and Im always there for him...but we fight ALL the time now over the stupidest stuff...I dont wanna push him away. Its kinda like I resent him for leaving, but not intentionally? Idk. I just dont wanna continue fighting once he returns this November.

We say hurtful things and he trys to appologize all right after and if im still mad he gets even more pissed off. I dont know what to do...he is a amazing person and we are better than this. Is this normal or are we falling apart?

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  • snowflake4m

    It is normal to fight. It is normal to feel resentment because he is gone all the time, and you are stuck at home or with the children, etc and so on. However, you really need to try to find a solution in your marriage, or you will end up pushing each other to the point of no return.

    Try going on date nights. Maybe you need a little extra attention since you don't get much with him being gone all the time. Pamper him in return if he pampers you. Do little things for him that you know he enjoys. Perhaps this can set you both on the right track again. All of this said, I don't think it's normal that he holds onto his anger so tightly, even if you're still upset. It's natural to be upset after an argument. Try talking to him about it. If he gets even more angry, or you are holding onto your anger also, you have a serious issue that needs addressing, and you need marital counseling.

    Again, I'd try little things to spice up your marriage like date nights, or just some alone time together. It sounds like you really need the attention. Best of luck. :)

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  • peterr

    If you will fuck me I will sort this out for you.

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  • pay2play

    Don't you think he does enough fighting in the army. At home it should be more peaceful and a happy environment if he's at war with you as well this is not normal. When he returns to you, you must provide a warm and loving environment were he feels safe loved and wanted. You are not the enemy so don't act like it. Stay calm and be a loving wife. Tell him you understand and it's okay you love him and need him. Being apart should bring you closer not push you apart.

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  • moe

    Accept his apologie

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  • cookiegirl

    does he give you more attention when you gys fight? cause if he pays little attention to you when you dont but you get all of his attention when you fight (cause you make him so mad) there goes your answer, you dont wanna be neglected, if thats the case talk to him or you know, do some stuff

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  • AAAbattery

    For being faithful you earn some good points, and I hope things work out.

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  • penelope13

    It's a stressful time for the both of you. Counseling may be the best thing for you, right now. Good luck.

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  • Kotit007

    You are both under a lot of stress. It's really easy for it to seem like everything is falling apart, and it may be. IT MAY NOT BE THOUGH! All you really have to do is take into consideration whatever he is going through, and what you're going through, and work through it together. Fighting isn't going to help anyone, try and keep a level head.

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  • kimiebleed

    I guess you are still adjusting..in your part you need to adjust with your husband if you want to be ok with him..your already married,you should have a full sensitivity,acknowledgment,patience and of course understanding.. or why not talk to your husband to make things right..its the only way to prevent your relationship to fall apart..

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