To want a sexist man?

I'm a 21 year old girl and I've had decent boyfriends in the past but sometimes I see these really sexist comments that boyfriends make to their partners or the way they control their lives and I know it's wrong and it's disgusting but I can't help feeling somewhat turned on by that kind of man, like I want to be submissive to them. I know sexist men are disgusting pigs but when I'm at the moment I just want to play along. It's something I can't tell any of my friends as I'm a feminist and they are too. This has been going on for a while right now so I'm really starting to consider that maybe this is just who I am and I've seen many right wing women who just like to be submissive and they're happy to obey men. I still feel strongly disgusted by the thought of that but something inside me always makes me want it at some time or another. Should I give this feeling a chance and try to get in a male-dominant relationship to see how I feel like or should I just go to a psychiatrist or something?

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  • Why not find a b/f who likes to role play and do that , if it turns you on .
    The reason why I say " role Play" is because the real men who like to control woman are also abusive and will beat you if you wear something they don't like or talk to someone they don't
    like .

    I hope you're not into that because that will cost you you're life if he kills you .

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  • https://ibb.co/n3B3BD4

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  • I think on a primal level this is more common than most people care to admit. Women tend to search for ultra-violent porn and the like. You can have a strong man who's not sexist though. Just don't go for any of the pathetic male-feminist types. There's got to be a reasonable in-between out there.

    Also, dude, first comment you ever made... It's pretty pathetic that you made an alt just to have a go at me over this. I clearly touched a nerve with this one.

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    • "Just don't go for any of the pathetic male-feminist types."

      Imagine having a thought, and this was it.

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      • Testosterone lower than an 80 year old man, spine made out of gelatin, willingly shitting on other men for a crumb of pussy, they're the epitome of contempt.

        Also, this is the first comment you ever made... It's pretty pathetic that you made an alt just to say that. Seems I touched a nerve with this one.

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  • Weak women attract weak men, and vice versa.

    If anyone tried to “submit” to me I’d be out of there immediately, I don’t have patience for weak women.
    I wouldn’t want to partner with someone who let themselves be dominated.

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    • I understand that. I don't consider myself a weak woman. I have thought about some childhood event or something that could've generated this attraction and nothing, I haven't ever been treated disrespectfully and enjoyed it or anything like that. This started one day when a friend of mine showed me some messages her boyfriend had sent her saying that she couldn't go out in such a short dress (of which she sent her a photo). Of course, I advised her to leave him and she did, but in my mind O just kept thinking about how I'd like to be told what to do and be punished for my misbehavior like he would've probably done with my friend. I cringe everytime I think about that, but then I see or hear something and I'm just turned on again... I don't know what to do and if someone could please help me I'd appreciate it.

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    • Spoken like a strong Russian.

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  • I consider myself a strong woman but submit 100% to my husbands wishes. I believe it’s what nature intended and I am very happy in my life and in my relationship. When we married I insisted on using the old fashion vowels and promised to love, honour and obey my husband. I have always done my best to stay true to those vowels but if I step out of line I am punished with a hard spanking. It’s not a sexual thing it’s a true punishment and it hurts, but I know it will focus me to do better next time. Things I get punished for are being argumentative or disrespectful to my husband, failing to keep the house clean and tidy, failing to prepare meals on time, serving up meals that are poorly cooked or prepared, being irresponsible with money, being outside of what we have agreed is a healthy weight for me, not keeping to my agreed diet, drinking anything other than water, breaking my dress code (I am not allowed trousers, jeans, leggings etc and no underwear) and when the children were growing up I would be spanked if they misbehaved as my husband considers raising polite well behaved children is a woman’s job. This may all sound very harsh to some people, but so long as I do what is required of me my husband treats me like a total princess. He is extremely loving, regularly showers me with gifts and flowers, will always listen to and consider my concerns or opinions, provided I am respectful and accept that he will have the last word. We go on some fabulous holidays and short breaks, he gives me wonderful massages and loads of orgasms and we have a fabulous sex life. So in answer to your post, find a wonderful man, live by his rules and enjoy life to the full.

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    • Can’t be strong and still submit.
      Notice how you say “princess” instead of queen.
      It’s 100% against any tradition to avoid underwear, that’s how we know it’s just a fetish.
      People who incorporate children into their fetish should be pulled apart limb from limb.
      You are teaching your children it’s okay to beat women.
      I can smell your raggedy ass cooch through this post.
      Your husband sucks my dick cause he said he loves commie cock.
      You aren’t allowed to argue with me because I’m a man.

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      • Can’t be strong and submit? Garbage. Pretty sure if a woman is choosing to submit out of want to do so then there’s no weakness at all to her character or decision.

        Weakness doesn’t attract weakness either, nor strength to strength. Many, many people who are together are polar opposites in those regards. Dominant people generally like the opposite in the other, go look at the bdsm community for an example, and that sort of dynamic extends out into people’s general character and lives.

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        • I don’t have a single positive thing to say about the bdsm community, so that example means nothing to me

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          • A persons positive or negative opinion on the community is irrelevant to the validity of the statement.

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      • Hi, thanks for your comment. Please, ignore the other asshole that responded to you, he's not worth your time. My issue is that even though I consciously believe that that type of behaviors and life choices are part of a patriarcal system that profits from the opression of us women and I fight to burn it down, I subconsciously dream about a life like yours. On a conscious level I'm studying to become a lawyer and earn my living independently from any man and live as an accomplished woman, but on the subconscious level I just want to be dominated and have no say to my man, and I just want to please. This is the summit of sexism in my opinion and I can't help but find it extremely hot when I think of being dominated by a man who hates me and treats me like a worthless thing. I'm very proud of you for being at peace with the life you chose, and I'm sure you're a strong woman, but I'm still not sure of anything... Maybe this is just temporary or maybe it's really who I am and what I want...

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      • I can argue with you all I want, you’re not MY man. I don’t wear underwear because my husband requires me not to, it’s a health thing, it’s better for the vagina to allow air flow. My daughters wore knickers for school or playing outside up to age 11 when they went to secondary school, then they made their own informed choices. The eldest one chose to continue wearing them just for school until she started her periods then she would wear them all the time when she was on. The younger one chose not to wear them at all except on PE days and also her periods. Neither were forced into their choices but I do know as adults the younger one still hates them and rarely wears them, her older sister wears them most of the time. My sons were taught to respect women and treat them well, my daughters were taught that it’s alright to be subservient to their man but only if they choose that lifestyle and it’s not ok to be abused. Here in England we think of queens as gay men, much better to be considered a princess. X

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        • You understand you’re worth absolutely nothing to society then, right? You provide nothing to your community. You exist only to that one dumbass you married.

          Bro if shit hits the fan we are all eating you first, because you’re worthless and no one would want to put in the effort to keep you alive.
          Is IIN your outlet since you have to hold your tongue your whole life at home?
          You literally contribute nothing, nobody will ever know your name, you gave up your human rights ELECTIVELY. Yuck.

          You talk too much for someone with a boot on their throat, go sit down

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          • What about people that can’t get work? Are they a waste?

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          • Why would you think that way. I am a qualified teacher and work mornings in a school teaching special needs children. I don’t generally post on here details of my work but since you assumed, for some reason best known to you, I thought I would set the record straight.

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        • Also if he was any good of a provider he would just get you maid, that’s what we’ve always done

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    • Hi, why do you slave yourself.

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  • yes that is normal, no need to see a shrink over that.

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  • It’s normal. I fantasise about being with a violent misogynist who fucks me as he holds a knife to my throat and tells me he will kill me if I ever try to leave him.

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    • Hey... I'm looking for serious help and advice here, this isn't a joke for me. Please keep comments serious.

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      • This person has made posts about that fantasy before. It's not a joke.

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      • ...I wasn’t joking

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        • Oh... I'm really sorry. Are your fantasies really that intense? May I ask if you know what makes you have them?

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          • I don’t know what causes those fantasies, I remember having them since the age of about 12/13. Since I first became aware of/interested in sex, I’ve always thought about it in that context.

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            • I don't know how anyone can have those kinds of fantasies, would you like it if that were to happen to you or are you aware that it's just a fantasy you would never want to be real?

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  • So, you just want a man?

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  • I know girls who are really sexist and like to be submissive because they find that it's natural and it's right for women to be like that. I've got a friend who really believes in this and who absolutely loathes feminism, and she's a great person and friend to me and the rest of our friends. She's happy with her life (she's got a boyfriend who is a great guy too) and that kind of thinking doesn't seem to weigh her down on her goals and overall happiness. Maybe your case is a little bit more extreme but I guess it's kind of normal that some women voluntarily want to feel inferior to men. I say as long as it doesn't interfere with your mental and physical health, nothing wrong.

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  • I could be wrong, but it's possible that there are things you're considering sexist that actually aren't. Could you provide some examples of the things that these men say or do that you find arousing just as a frame of reference?

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    • Yes, of course. I volunteered in a feminist organization that helps women who suffer from domestic violence and I'm really ashamed of this but I've found some stories that those women told me arousing. Like their husbands getting home drunk and beating on them, boyfriends choking and spitting on them, men punishing them with their belts, telling them to cut ties with their friends and family and to be only with them, humiliation during sex, sabotaging their careers to keep them in an inferior position, etc. All of these things I've helped fight against and I still want to but I still find myself turned on by the thought of being treated like that...

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      • Yeah, that's messed up. Some people are into being chocked and spit on, some like being spanked with belts, and some are into humiliation during sex, but that's all bdsm/role play stuff. The rest of that stuff's just not right. I think maybe you need some help.

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      • ummm...
        I'm pretty sure if you got a beating and raped and so on you would feel real dumb for even saying it turns you on .

        Clearly you have never been abused .
        It's not a joke , many woman have died and your make light of this .
        You need to seek help .

        Careful what you ask for I'm sure there are men who would love to beat you and do stuff to you with no mercy in sight .

        Have fun with that !

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