To still be in love with a guy like this?

My man cherishes me and just proposed to me after a second date(I SWEAR.) My man would never do something like that as you described yours did. And the moment he does what your man did, HES OUT the door.. When you're with someone, love is not the only thing thats important... trust and R-E-S-P-E-C-T is what you deserve and what you should demand and command from your man. YOU ARE letting him think its ok to walk over you if you take him back without earning back you trust and stopping the bad behavior. Thank god usually age comes with wisdom. I'm 30 and used to think something like that was normal when i was like 18 or 19 but TRUST ME YOU DESERVE BETTER...LET HIM GO from your heart and soul...UNTIL He changes for the better or find a good, respectable, godly man of purpose who REALLY knows how to treat a woman. Best of luck to you

not sure why it is, but if you define normal by most people behaving that way, then yes, it's normal. how many times have we had a girl choose someone who treats them like a pair of old shoes, over someone who worships the ground they walk on. don't know why, but most women can't resist the guys who treat them like they can takum or leavum.

Sometimes it can take time to unlove somebody, its ok to love him now but you need to forget him, he will only cause you pain.

Don't be one of those girls. Please! You may love him, but he doesn't love you. Be strong! While loving someone who doesn't love you back is normal, it's very weak! If you can't stay away, do yourself a favor, sleep with other guys too, and make sure he knows about it. Just make sure you always, always, always use protection. You wouldn't want to end up with an STD from this guy, or anyone for that matter.

^ He is right. Just do the opposite of what you feel. Have to use the brain not the heart on this one.

I would say not. I cheated once and it didn't even feel right and wont do it again. Heck even after being for on my first and only relationship of 5 yrs I don't even feel that messing around like him would make me feel any better. Being a guy, I would say he's just tryina get in whosevers pants or jus being plain sleezy and desperate. Stay away I know it's hard to go against your feelings but. The choice is ultimately yours.

@Fishy-Fishy Instead of beheading said men, she could just leave him, which she obviously doesn't and continues to "love" him. So while he's definitely an arsehole, the poster has herself to blame.

Men that do this should seriously be beheaded or something.
The man you are with should always love and charish you, and only you, no matter what. I'm sure you could easily find someone so much better.

I don't think you are wrong for still loving him - for better or worse our emotions often rule over everything and make things that should be perfectly clear become fuzzy.
As hard as it is though you definately need to get over and away from him. The fact that not only has he cheated on you but with your supposed best friend (who I would also give the boot) and with several other girls really doesn't bode well for a healthy relationship.
It may be very hard but give yourself time and space away from this guy and eventually it will be easier to let go fully - it may sound cheesy but it's often true that time is the greatest healer.