To run away emotionally?

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Ok, so right now, my dad is basically dying. Its still in the early stages,so its not obvious unless someone says something. I love him,honestly, i do.
And this is my stepdad (so u ppl who have read mt previous comments and questions do not get confused).
I want to be there for him and mom,but at the same time,I'm running away emotionally. I stay out of home as much as possible and i try not to think about it (obviously i am now). I'm ok with death,but i dont know how to deal with someone dying,again. And i did this when my grandfather had alzheimers and was living with us. So,i'm wondering if this is normal.

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  • asdf90091
    12 years ago | pl

    Running away from the problem will only leave you with regrets. Share your feelings with him and spend more time with him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I would only visit them if they cared for me because I wouldnt say I care for them but they cared for me which means I should pay my respects which is only fair but then again people just say im cold, anyway if you respected him and he cared for you then you should see him because you will most likely only looking for sympathy because you didnt get to say good bye which was your choice.

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  • wreckd
    12 years ago | pl

    How you deal with things is your own. But I have one question: Do you regret not being there much while your grandfather was dying? If so, as much as it hurts, try being around your step-father and taking care of him so there are no regrets to be felt. I wish I had spent every second with my dad before he died but unfortunately I didn't and you can't change the past.

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    • TheNewMe
      12 years ago | pl

      Yes, I do,but the situation was so freaking hard! He wasnt the grandfather I knew my whole life.Right now, dad is still ok,hes still working and everything else he used to do. Like i said its still in the early stages, he has copd and enzyma (not sure hot to spell that), and were moving out of state as soon as i get my cosmetology license,or in may. At this point theres not anything i can really do execpt be supportive and keep my feelings to myself. (which i am doing already).I guess you are right besides that my escape route is about to end.

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      • wreckd
        12 years ago | pl

        I know what you mean. My dad hardly knew who I was most of the time. And he was always seeing things that weren't there. It's hard to watch such a strong man tumble into weakness.

        I hope the best for you and your family. I don't know your religion but I'll keep your father in my prayers. Try to stay strong and do what feels right to you. Good luck! <3

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