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I have jacked off several times into a sock next to my sleeping wife, then rolled over and went back to sleep, is this normal?
If you aren't having sex anymore then it's not normal. If you are having sex still and it's just a random occassional thing to help you sleep then it's fine. I would find it funny if I caught my husband doing that, but if we were no longer having sex I would find it hurtful
Dunno. Maybe she was tired and just wasn't in thw mood that night? You're making a lot of assumptions, man.
Thanks for all the comments, however, there is a great deal of love in our marriage of 36 years, we are in our late 50's, and our service life is satisfactory. This is an occasional thing, it kind of turns me on, it happens in the middle of the night, when I have awaken, and she is asleep. I was kind of surprised at all the negative comments, I assume a lot of those came from those who have it have had loveless, sexless, relationships. I thought most guys continue to masturbate as long as they are able too, and spicing that up a little I thought was more normal. But I guess I may have learned something here, thank you
It's normal if she isn't satisfying you. Is it the old "not tonight dear I have a headache." Maybe you will have to get creative between the sheets. Try something with her you haven't done before. Go to a XXX store and look for some games or toys. Maybe she has got tired if the "same old." It's time to switch it up.
Do you take care of HER needs after you're satisfied?
You're right, there are loveless marriages out there. There are plenty of great ones too though. You probably hear about them less because people complain about bad, failed marriages a lot more than people brag about good ones. Human nature, I think.
Maybe, just maybe, you should love your S.O. for more than just sex and blowjobs. If more people realized that, I bet more marriages would be happier.
shows poor self-control and like a "animal" or something. constant need to wack off
Why do you consider masturbating a lack of self-control?
Are you the Pope or something?
More so for the person asking the question.. just because he didn't get any from his spouse that night.. he acts like he can't live without sex and has a need to rub one off right then and there in the bed next to her.
It shows weakness to the female too thinking the man would go crazy without her.
Constant need? That's a blind assumption and acting like an animal? Well considering we are animals you would think it inappropriate to act any other way it's not uncivilised to masturbate in private
And here I did that once while sleeping next to my sister. And no, I wasn't trying to have sex with my sister.
I was with you until you said " And no, I wasn't trying to have sex with my sister."
Did it next to my cousin once.
Another time did it on the way to church with the fam.
I was 12 and full of hormones and God hated my bisexual self so I gave no more fucks.
Dude, that's hella fucked up! The reason many people don't come forward when they are sexually harassed, assaulted or even raped is because they don't want to be blacklisted! Powerful people in entertainment, the media and elsewhere have a nasty habit of abusing whatever power they have.
Thanks for the heads up about Steve Jobs' daughter, I'd be curious to read the book, because honestly I've never liked that guy. Money isn't everything you know.
For the most part a have agreed with and appreciated many things you have had to say in the past, but what you've said here is cancerous.
Not normal, but happens, especially if you're not having sex with her. My ex-wife wasn't into sex, and saw it as a mechanical, let's get this over with thing, there were times I'd lay on my side of the bed, sink the hands, and, yeah..Go at it just to satisfy a need. Not saying I did it a lot, but there were times I did.
We went to a family gathering, and one of my sister's friends, who was a very hot, fit-bodied blonde with deep blue eyes women kill for, was there. She and I chatted and hit it off while my now ex wife drank (9 beers, total), and I drove home thinking all about "Amy". That night, between still being revved-up by Amy and in need at home..I went at it in bed as the wife slept on the other side. I would rather have had Amy there.
I said, not normal but it happens. When a couple doesn't have sex often, getting along or not, all guys need an outlet. Never said it was ideal..It isn't. But, combine a wife who was never into sex to begin with, and a declining marriage, and it's going to happen.
I love doing that. Combination of needing a release and hoping she would catch me in the act.
I jack off right in front of my wife whenever we are not having sex.she loves it'
Are you jerking off to her? I masterbate to my sleeping gf sometimes... she knows I do and doesn’t care, she just doesn’t want to wake up to it in her hair.
We are old and she wont sleep with me any more because it hurts. I do it all the time. I wait until she starts to snore. Then I push a leg up against her for closeness and whack away. I always keep a washcloth in my sock drawer for clean-up after. A little planning and its all good. And there is the new style porn to help which she will watch with me.
Now there are new toys for men on amnazon and ebay that do all the work and are self cleaning and heated and suck. 80 bucks.
If she ever woke and caught me, I am sure she would want to watch and that would fuck up my chi.
Caught my boyfriend doing it one night. Told him I didn't care and in fact watched him finish..he loved it. Now I wake up sometimes with sticky panties or a sticky back. It kind of hot really.
Totally normal. Whether you have a sex life with her or not. Totally normal.
As long as you aren't raping her in her sleep or anything she doesn't want.
Because yes, sleeping people cannot consent and it is rape and sexual assault, unless a clear discussion is made between the both of you that you can do things to her in her sleep.
Doesn't matter if you've fucked or not, doesn't matter if it's a gf or a wife; it is still rape/sexual assault as it isn't consensual.
I do this sometimes it’s bit of a turn on to jack of next to her and eithen better if you get her hand to do it
If you have never married then how do you know any of that? Just anecdotes from your circle of friends or strangers on the internet? Because modern studies show that married people's sex lives peak in their 40s and 50s. Most people marry in their 20s or 30s. So that would completely disprove your theory.
I second your "use her socks" comment though - that would be hilarious :)
That's always a possibility. I had an ex that was really mean to me like...meaner than I like it and I actually like strange femdom relationships.
rally I jurk off all the time but when my wife is home and sleeping I cant help my self we both sleep in the nude and after 2 kids she still has a smoking hot body so I cant help my self sometimes I wake her up in the middle of the night junking off and she tells me to go in the other room every time. but I never do. I wait for her to fall back asleep and then finish up when I slide it in her she hates it but still loves me so that's a good thing. we are both in are early 30ths and have been married for 12 years and we are ok with use sleeping with other people because when im deployed we all have needs so its nothing to find some guy trying to get some but she always ask if I want to play and we have sex like 9 times a week but I still jurk off 3 times a day just cant help it.
So, basically, you rape her.
Just cause she forgives you doesn't mean it's okay.
You said it yourself that she tells you to do it in the other room, but then you don't and in fact you wait for her to be unconscious for you to force your cock inside her. And you acknowledge that she hates it, but you don't care.
You "just can't help myself."
That's rape. Marriage or not, love or not.
Unless you have clear rules that she's actually okay with you doing that, then it's rape.
Unless she has safe words, it's rape.
Forgiveness and love and marriage and having kids; doesn't negate what rape is.
I know, because my mom was raped a lot.
Although for her, every session was rape, not just the night time hours.