Tips on how to avoid being jealous?

i need help on how to not be jealous. please, anything will help. i get upset with my boyfriend when he calls other girls cute and looks at them/ talks/ and i know it's bad but i can't help it. advice!! please. i don't want it to ruin our relationship

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  • barstool

    It's normal to feel a little jealous sometimes. And imo, a certain amount of possessiveness can also be kinda sexy in the right circumstances.

    So first, make sure that it's actually your problem and not his. Are you sure it's definitely your jealousy that's inappropriate, and not how he communicates with other girls?

    Tips: talk to him openly about it. Just be honest about how you're feeling and drop the need to feel right about it. ie. Recognise that maybe our feelings aren't justified, be ok with that and talk it through. Tell him how it makes you feel. Even if you think your jealousy is excessive, you can still ask him to be understanding about it and refrain from doing things that make you jealous.

    Try and understand that anybody can find people outside the relationship attractive, and it doesn't have to mean anything. Think about your internal reaction to other guys, for eg. Do you occasionally find other guys hot? And you know it doesn't mean anything? So it's the same for your bf.

    It's totally natural to feel jealous sometimes. But that doesn't mean you have to be a slave to your emotions.
    So question your jealousy every time you feel it. Are you justified in feeling that way? Is it helpful?
    If not, try and put it to the side, even if you can't stop the feeling altogether.

    Tl;dr Feelings are often wrong and need to be challenged. Communicate openly with your bf about it. Avoid starting arguments.

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  • dicka912

    If you are taking care of him (his needs), you have nothing to worry about.

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  • Tealights

    Men and women always will forever look. You can't get upset with him staring, because some people just put all their business out there. I know if you see this girl with butt-choking neon green yoga pants, your eyes will fall on her butt, guaranteed, and that's what people want when they dress like that; attention.

    It's about trust. Does he make you feel secure in the relationship? Does he show that you're more important than the other women around you?

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