Yeah it’s a little bit of that. I go back and forth between thinking things are ok and questioning my trust/his behavior. The manager below him is worse though, and I have some kind of rapport with my GM so it’s hard for me to see if this is a little thing to let go or draw a line and say no, because either way he’s lying at times.
But it’s not just lying it is a control tactic if he is gaslighting and that’s messed up. Lying to employees isn’t cool at all especially if I’m coming from a place of honesty and needing to know answers, it builds trust, lying betrays trust
Yeah, I dont think you should draw a line over this issue. You gotta pick your battles and this isnt the hill to die on. If you never complain about stuff bosses tend to take things more serious when you do.
Yeah but when I actually consider leaving because of this issue, I actually feel more hopeful and positive about finding a new place to work. That’s a green flag and I feel more like myself, like the person I want to be. So that tells me I might be dealing with something in general and specifically the gaslighting that are sucking the life out of me….
I know what you’re saying though, except for me, personally, the second I realize a situation is having a real detrimental affect on my physical or mental/spiritual health, I’m out.
This is true. I literally keep feeling it out on a daily basis. But I don’t think it’s as bad as it is. Part of my issue is I have long standing trust issues (perhaps I was gaslit in the past) so when someone tells me something that doesn’t match my reality or view on things, I tend to assume My POV is right and valid and I question theirs
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Yeah it’s a little bit of that. I go back and forth between thinking things are ok and questioning my trust/his behavior. The manager below him is worse though, and I have some kind of rapport with my GM so it’s hard for me to see if this is a little thing to let go or draw a line and say no, because either way he’s lying at times.
But it’s not just lying it is a control tactic if he is gaslighting and that’s messed up. Lying to employees isn’t cool at all especially if I’m coming from a place of honesty and needing to know answers, it builds trust, lying betrays trust
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Yeah, I dont think you should draw a line over this issue. You gotta pick your battles and this isnt the hill to die on. If you never complain about stuff bosses tend to take things more serious when you do.
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Yeah but when I actually consider leaving because of this issue, I actually feel more hopeful and positive about finding a new place to work. That’s a green flag and I feel more like myself, like the person I want to be. So that tells me I might be dealing with something in general and specifically the gaslighting that are sucking the life out of me….
I know what you’re saying though, except for me, personally, the second I realize a situation is having a real detrimental affect on my physical or mental/spiritual health, I’m out.
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Your new job could be worse. Idk how much he's gas lighting you but often times bosses or coworkers are even worse than that.
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This is true. I literally keep feeling it out on a daily basis. But I don’t think it’s as bad as it is. Part of my issue is I have long standing trust issues (perhaps I was gaslit in the past) so when someone tells me something that doesn’t match my reality or view on things, I tend to assume My POV is right and valid and I question theirs