They think they know !

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It was my uncles 30th birthday party the other night, I had a few drinks, Danced a bit and just socialised with the family! All was good until another uncle and some random aproached me, they said I am going off rails and turning to alchaol for happiness - you see my mum and dad has recently broken up! my brothers, sisters and I spend weekends at dads and week days at mums! They reckon i'm taking advantage of my parents cause I know now they are trying to compete to who the better parent is. But the thing is I rarly go out i'm always babysitting while mum goes out and works, when we are at dads his always going clubbing with his mates which leaves me with my brothers and sisters again! ARGHHH. how dare the judge me like that infront of everyone, It makes me so angry how people talk to me as if they know when they don't. Is it normal for me to feel this way ?
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  • (:sweet:)
    12 years ago | pl

    Many of her sentences end with exclamation! What a sorry life! Good luck to u!

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago | pl

    So normal. When I first moved out my mom would say things to imply that i wasnt eating well... she assumed because i was young I was living off pizza pockets and mr.noodles. My fridge was stalked with fruits, vegetables and tons of other good stuff. Its just such a piss off when people assume things and talk out their asses, espec. when its none of their buisiness anyway. I hope you stood up for yourself.

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  • Anywho
    13 years ago | pl

    ugh! been there, I hate relatives who automatically assume you're an alcoholic cause you tie one on at a social function, completely disregarding its the first drink you've even had in months or years - they don't even care, cause they didn't ask. No one asked me if I drink often, no one asked me when the last time was, they just attacked... fortunately or unfortunately it turned into a HUGE scene, being drunk, I didn't hold back and said all these things and many more. How ignorant are they? They didn't hear anything I said and to this day our relationships are strained. They just want to pretend it never happened. Well fine, I don't need those kind of judgemental people, have a nice life, I'll be off having mine without you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    EVERYONE ON THIS WEBSITE: BE CAREFUL OF "BUDTHE WISE" - HE IS A FIRST CLASS CREEP, WOMAN ABUSER, RACIST AND IGNORAMUS ... AND PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO ANY OF HIS CRAPPY AND ABUSIVE ADVICE. PLEASE!!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Yeah - it is. And if you are like me you probably think of things to say after-the-fact. Like: "This is my first night off from child minding for 2 months, get off my case."

    Still its never too late, you could approach them when you next see them, tell them how you felt and straighten them out on the facts. If mom & dad have just separated, then other family members may be curious.

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    • PoisonFlowers
      13 years ago | pl

      Ugh, I actually feel annoyed for you. People sometimes make assumptions thinking that they know best - it happens. You could do what ollieo said and make things straight with them next time. That might help, but others may still jump to conclusions.

      From the sound of it, your relatives may simply be concerned because of the recent separation. He was wrong about the nature of the problems, but he was right that they're there. Maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to talk about what's really going on with someone. Take care.

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  • eXigrrL
    13 years ago | pl

    It's completely normal for you to feel this way! They had no right to do that! It's your life! They might have though that they were helping, but if they wanted to help, they would have taken you aside. It also matters how old you are. Can you legally drink? My family acts like that all the time, I just look them in the eyes and tell them they're wrong.

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