Offence taken, we are both legal adults! I wasn't trying to come off as immature, I was just relaying what happened. Waiting a few years will not help the current situation. All I need to know is whether or not I should give her another chance.
Well, if that's true, let me give you my full analysis then.
First of all... maybe you have done or said things that hurted her as well. You should try to guess if any of your actions have ever hurted her in some way. In past experiences, I was suddenly mistreated by other people for no apparent reason... only to then discover that I actually did things that annoyed them in the first place.
And well, women usually get into this kind of relationship in which they are "frenemies". Maybe she does like you, but also feels a weird rivalry towards you. That could explain why she would snap and then miss you and be friendly again.
A long time ago, I used to have a friend similar to this friend of yours. He was usually nice to me, but he would suddenly act bitter towards me without any kind of provocation. He was gay, so I also thought that he was in love with me. But people later explained to me that he was bitter towards me because I had a normal life, and that he just wanted me to be gay to share all the hardships that he went through.
And well, my advice would be to be diplomatic with this girl. Be nice to her and keep your distance. Try to show indifference if she does something that bothers you. If she wants to share something to you try to be supportive. But if she makes drama, just walk away and ignore her.
Of course, its true. What could I possibly gain from lying on here?
While that does make sense, I can't think of any time where I could have hurt her feelings. It was usually her causing me to hurt. Her becoming angered over simple things or things that I had zero control over. Now I know that I may have annoyed her because at the time around our last communication, I had the tendency to text too much. I never intended to be annoying and I theorize that the reason I did it was because I was scared of losing friends.
I can't fathom why she'd see me as a rival. We met because of a similar interest and at one point decided to both pursue the same career. I ended up changing my mind but she doesn't know about that. The only thing I can see her being envious of is my art. I never really thought about it that way. I always thought that she was emotionally and occasionally mentally unstable. The thing is I've never had a "normal life". However, I never was allowed to expressed this properly express with my friends. If sexuality makes a difference here, I am bisexual and the last I checked it was also the same with her.
This is a good point. I have decided to keep my distance and instead of giving her my number or personal email, I'll give her a professional email. This way I can be distant, in a sense, and still keep things from being too personal.
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Offence taken, we are both legal adults! I wasn't trying to come off as immature, I was just relaying what happened. Waiting a few years will not help the current situation. All I need to know is whether or not I should give her another chance.
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Well, if that's true, let me give you my full analysis then.
First of all... maybe you have done or said things that hurted her as well. You should try to guess if any of your actions have ever hurted her in some way. In past experiences, I was suddenly mistreated by other people for no apparent reason... only to then discover that I actually did things that annoyed them in the first place.
And well, women usually get into this kind of relationship in which they are "frenemies". Maybe she does like you, but also feels a weird rivalry towards you. That could explain why she would snap and then miss you and be friendly again.
A long time ago, I used to have a friend similar to this friend of yours. He was usually nice to me, but he would suddenly act bitter towards me without any kind of provocation. He was gay, so I also thought that he was in love with me. But people later explained to me that he was bitter towards me because I had a normal life, and that he just wanted me to be gay to share all the hardships that he went through.
And well, my advice would be to be diplomatic with this girl. Be nice to her and keep your distance. Try to show indifference if she does something that bothers you. If she wants to share something to you try to be supportive. But if she makes drama, just walk away and ignore her.
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Of course, its true. What could I possibly gain from lying on here?
While that does make sense, I can't think of any time where I could have hurt her feelings. It was usually her causing me to hurt. Her becoming angered over simple things or things that I had zero control over. Now I know that I may have annoyed her because at the time around our last communication, I had the tendency to text too much. I never intended to be annoying and I theorize that the reason I did it was because I was scared of losing friends.
I can't fathom why she'd see me as a rival. We met because of a similar interest and at one point decided to both pursue the same career. I ended up changing my mind but she doesn't know about that. The only thing I can see her being envious of is my art. I never really thought about it that way. I always thought that she was emotionally and occasionally mentally unstable. The thing is I've never had a "normal life". However, I never was allowed to expressed this properly express with my friends. If sexuality makes a difference here, I am bisexual and the last I checked it was also the same with her.
This is a good point. I have decided to keep my distance and instead of giving her my number or personal email, I'll give her a professional email. This way I can be distant, in a sense, and still keep things from being too personal.