Breaaathe, it's ok. I can see why you'd be bothered by the comment, I too would wonder about it for a bit. But I reckon you're overthinking it. I get the impression you're prone to overthinking. Had you been upset/crying? Sometimes that happens in therapy, so if so, she may have been referring to that. IF she had noticed your sweating then the screwed up face thing may have been an empathetic look? She might realise how bad it can get for you and felt for you. Or it may have been a bit of a badly thought through/inconsiderate comment (you'd hope not, therapists should be understanding) but even IF it was or if she was in some way offended then really... so what? Think about it. A lot of us have reactions to anxiety and it's not fair to judge someone or make silly comments when they have those reactions. So if she did mean it in a funny way, then maybe it's her problem, not yours. It's not like you went into her office having not showered or changed your clothes for ten days. Zoom out and some perspective on the situation will go a long way. Although, I get that this is really hard for you. Maybe you feel you have to meet very high standards around others. But you don't have to all the time and anyone who expects you to always meet very high standards is being unreasonable and possibly deflecting their own insecurities on to you.
You are right about my tendency to over think things. Usually, the act causes me serious amounts of stress and the stress from that and from other things is never really dealt with properly. No, I wasn't crying, but I did get close to it. She has a lot of intreating behaviors and personality "quirks". However, she doesn't really scrunch up her face that much. She does seem to get colds so, maybe she has allergies? If this is the case, the nose twitching could have been from sinus irritation… However, if this was the case, she probably would have said so. She does have avery warm personality so, it could be that she was trying to relax me a bit… or not. I do doubt that she did it to be mean, though. That just doesn't seem like her.
Its not something that I feel like bringing up with her. By bringing it up, it puts all of that focus on it, which would be absolutely embarrassing.
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Breaaathe, it's ok. I can see why you'd be bothered by the comment, I too would wonder about it for a bit. But I reckon you're overthinking it. I get the impression you're prone to overthinking. Had you been upset/crying? Sometimes that happens in therapy, so if so, she may have been referring to that. IF she had noticed your sweating then the screwed up face thing may have been an empathetic look? She might realise how bad it can get for you and felt for you. Or it may have been a bit of a badly thought through/inconsiderate comment (you'd hope not, therapists should be understanding) but even IF it was or if she was in some way offended then really... so what? Think about it. A lot of us have reactions to anxiety and it's not fair to judge someone or make silly comments when they have those reactions. So if she did mean it in a funny way, then maybe it's her problem, not yours. It's not like you went into her office having not showered or changed your clothes for ten days. Zoom out and some perspective on the situation will go a long way. Although, I get that this is really hard for you. Maybe you feel you have to meet very high standards around others. But you don't have to all the time and anyone who expects you to always meet very high standards is being unreasonable and possibly deflecting their own insecurities on to you.
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You are right about my tendency to over think things. Usually, the act causes me serious amounts of stress and the stress from that and from other things is never really dealt with properly. No, I wasn't crying, but I did get close to it. She has a lot of intreating behaviors and personality "quirks". However, she doesn't really scrunch up her face that much. She does seem to get colds so, maybe she has allergies? If this is the case, the nose twitching could have been from sinus irritation… However, if this was the case, she probably would have said so. She does have avery warm personality so, it could be that she was trying to relax me a bit… or not. I do doubt that she did it to be mean, though. That just doesn't seem like her.
Its not something that I feel like bringing up with her. By bringing it up, it puts all of that focus on it, which would be absolutely embarrassing.