These people are emotionally unwell. Reading a post like this will only make them feel bad about themselves, not give them the necessary tools or understanding of how to change.
Might be more helpful to tell them to google codependency and childhood emotional abandonment/abuse.
I think that for many people who do this, they loathe this 'nice requirement' even more than the people they encounter.
It is burdensome, and like I say 'learned' so I don't think most of them would take it as an attack on them personally.
Also like I can speak from personal experience, that we the 'nice people' are raised with the fallacious concept that to be assertive, direct, disagree, any normal human behavior is MEAN.
And this is what I was hoping to dismantle, but I could have been more effective in doing so.
The problems with being nice
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These people are emotionally unwell. Reading a post like this will only make them feel bad about themselves, not give them the necessary tools or understanding of how to change.
Might be more helpful to tell them to google codependency and childhood emotional abandonment/abuse.
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I'm not sure I totally agree.
I think that for many people who do this, they loathe this 'nice requirement' even more than the people they encounter.
It is burdensome, and like I say 'learned' so I don't think most of them would take it as an attack on them personally.
Also like I can speak from personal experience, that we the 'nice people' are raised with the fallacious concept that to be assertive, direct, disagree, any normal human behavior is MEAN.
And this is what I was hoping to dismantle, but I could have been more effective in doing so.
Links of this nature would help as well