If you feel this is ruining your life then you really should consider seeking out some kind of professional help. I know it is embarrassing but the person you are likely going to end up talking to has studied human behaviour, and has interacted with lots of people who might be suffering from similar things to what you are going through.
I can't stress that point enough. It'll be far better to look back on today from five years down the line and think, "gee, that was embarrassing but I am glad I sorted that out." than it will be to be stuck in the same cycle.
Anyhoo, sex -even with yourself- is pretty great. I certainly like it and I don't think you should be denying yourself pleasure. Maybe you just need to move away from porn.
Try exploring yourself in a "purer" way, i.e, explore your body, find how to pleasure yourself as an act in and of it's self, not as a response to porn. I have felt pretty dependant on porn at times in my life but there is more to being aroused than that.
I guess that we can become dependent on certain things, thoughts, objects, images, taboos or whatever to "get the job done" but it is possible to relax and enjoy other things, the more you do it, the more you might begin to feel healthy again.
I know this was a bit of a ramble but I hope this helps.
The porn that gets me off is getting more and more deviant. Help!
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If you feel this is ruining your life then you really should consider seeking out some kind of professional help. I know it is embarrassing but the person you are likely going to end up talking to has studied human behaviour, and has interacted with lots of people who might be suffering from similar things to what you are going through.
I can't stress that point enough. It'll be far better to look back on today from five years down the line and think, "gee, that was embarrassing but I am glad I sorted that out." than it will be to be stuck in the same cycle.
Anyhoo, sex -even with yourself- is pretty great. I certainly like it and I don't think you should be denying yourself pleasure. Maybe you just need to move away from porn.
Try exploring yourself in a "purer" way, i.e, explore your body, find how to pleasure yourself as an act in and of it's self, not as a response to porn. I have felt pretty dependant on porn at times in my life but there is more to being aroused than that.
I guess that we can become dependent on certain things, thoughts, objects, images, taboos or whatever to "get the job done" but it is possible to relax and enjoy other things, the more you do it, the more you might begin to feel healthy again.
I know this was a bit of a ramble but I hope this helps.