The innocent mind

hey thunderslow. Some of your story is a little confusing to be honest, not always clear. However, I understand the main point of your message. Its clear you have no sexual thoughts or desires when being affectionate with other peoples children. Im a young guy, and Ive lived in many other countries throughout the world, and NEVER would what your describing be such a issue and automatically tied to pedophilia as much as in the UNITES STATES, LAND OF THE IGNORANCE. The government, media, and society condition themselves here to be so damn worried about creeps (often with good reason, not dismissing you need to be vigilante when necessary), that they forget that most of us adult men, and women, do have truly morally innocent intentions towards others who come to us for love and care. Its sad to see so many people in this country would automatically assume you want to molest their children without even getting to know first as to confirm that your intentions with their kids are the same as their own intentions with their own kids! Grow up and dont be so paranoid you cancerous individuals!

Well after some time has passed like 2 months she had a friend come over and we started to talk about things that she is ok with and what We find ok. Things are good now.
I like hugs from my kids and even thought I don't have a daughter she likes the idea of being treated as such. Her parents find this cute and find it healthy as we do.

I know people like asskicker20230 have this thing that I should just take care of my own kids but asskicker20230 your wrong. I find it safer to treat even your kids as my own kids to help protect them. I don't have a Pedophiles interest. Kids like affection and attention this is normal. Problem with Pedophiles other than looking at kids for sexual gratification they forget that kids talk about stuff like that

It was probably because she was really comfortable with you. Since you told her that thing about the biting, she probably felt bad or embarrased. So just give her time and she'll come back. :D

Well a lot has happened from the last time I put this up. by the way the next time asskicker20230 (15536) you say you shouldn't even caer just foces on your kids. If I see your kids about to get killed I will note your answer hear and just watch with out helping out. jest messing with you. The brother got injured but we have first aid with us at all times. There parents did not have one on hand. There daughter is doing fine and now understand her way of thinking. turnstile43 that's just cold. Kids need love with out the molestation crap. Even if there not your own kids. It makes them feel safe, welcome. They spent a few days at our place. It is strange but doing nothing to fix whatever actually fixed what ever the problem was. I have no problem with Nudist resorts. Society and people should learn from Nudist thinking. Could learn a lot from France as well. Public nudity is normal. Freaks out the Pedophiles, and rapist.

cabinet70
You sound like a dirty dirty old b*s***d. We do this with our kids we do that with our kids. Child f**ker in the making if you havent already done so

First off I am not old. I was comparing normal interaction with kids treating them equal. You treat any kid better than another freaks them out. I would not fuck a child even if you played me. I really think you need to get your head out of the gutters cabinet70.

Is it normal to hug your own kids. Yes.
Is it normal to hug your kids friends. Yes.
Is it normal to treat them as your own kids. Yes.
Is it normal to play with your kids. Yes.
Is it normal to play with your kids friends. Yes.
Is it normal for people on hear to over react. Yes.

Its recommended you hug your kids as meany times as you want a day.
Its also recommended to hug your kids friends as many times as they would like.
When kids come you to for a hug That's ok. Forcing a hug on any kids not ok. By the way I told the parents that there kids ask for hugs from us and we would stop but its just normal. They actually found our views normal as we sat down talking and there daughter went to my wife and myself for a hug. This hug is a welcome hug that is normal for all.

http://www.cariboo.bc.ca/news/sixsensesmagazine/Touch/stefaniegiddenshugs.htm

I expected to see your reaction as hugs to some adults are viewed as sexual and not viewed as warm friendly experience as a none threatening. Now if I grabbed her bottom like a 18 year old then that would be a problem.

I agree with Mischief, a lot of you guys are overreacting and turning it into something you've assumed in your own minds already. There's nothing wrong with anything he's explained. I suppose when in that mindset people easily confuse caring with gutterjunk.

Wow. I am very surprised at the number of comments saying that you are a pedophile. I did not think of anything of that kind!

I just think you enjoyed her personality and it made you sad that she wasn't over as often.

I'm very glad she came around though!

thunderslow you are cool.

I live in Europe and especially in my country we don't feel that insecure or unsafe about our children being molested by pedophiles.

People that do feel very insecure with that are slow-minded idiots that spend too much time listening to the crap of the media. I suggest they stop watching TV and start reading books or study psychology or something... Fear causes idiots to do things they wouldn't normally do.
Not to mention that fear is a weapon that has been frequently used by the American(and other) governments as an excuse for various violations of people's freedom as well as slaughters and wars...........

HUGGING IS NORMAL, AND PLAYING WITH KIDS IS NORMAL.

nonse

Back then giveing a kid a hug and and pat on the head was normal. But know if you give a kid now people are like"HES A FUCKING PEDO!" and if she's huggy you its obvious that she is not loved at home and does not getaffection as often

So what your saying is, she got into one little fight and her mom got scared and said, your going with your aunty and uncle in Bel Air.

I don't know enough details... aka how old the little girl is? Perhaps she saw the biting on tv? If she's a little older and understands that it isn't normal, it is likely that she has been sexually abused.

Thunder,,you are O.K. by me. I love children to, without any molestation in mind. I work with orphanages overseas, and see the need for s imple, pure hug. These people on here often try to inflate their childish egos, by putting others down. I go to nudist resorts,,with kids running free from harm, butt naked, loving life,,so,,society has a bit to learn.

Parents need to get there act together and stop freaking out so much. Its sex there children are sexual beings and will start even if you don't want them to.

There I go again off topic but really think about it how kids know what to do in the passed there parents demonstrated. Its not a big deal unless your performing this on your kids then something is wrong. But then again 1482 the father was expected to show there daughter at age 8-12 the act by performing it with them. Not saying its good but it was done.

I think cutting balls off is over kill any way. Children are aware of that place that feels good but no one explains much about it to them. When they do ask I have seen some parents blow up at them for even asking.
Parents seem fearful of talking about sex to there kids. That's dumb I think. If your kids know about it they are better prepared to deal with it. Children after all masturbate even younger than age 5. Why not give them the skills then to help protect them. No one knows. Use to be that your kids would learn about sex by watching there parents having sex. Now they are expected to learn from a book that can not give enough for them to watch for. After all they told tell you to watch out for Pedo. They just say don't let any one touch you at all. Then by 18 you will know how it works. Just dumb to do that. However this is off the topic I was making before.

Well I expected this reaction from crazy people. Its ok to hug kids first off even if there not your own kids. It lets them know that they are safe they also need to know if they are welcome to be in your home. go to cariboo.bc.ca get some facts before you comment. I am not a fucking Pedophiles. Pedophiles are after sexual attraction of adults to prepubescent children. I was talking about something entirely different.

I was working that is what I was doing when I was doing my own thing. You all need some help. I watch for pedophiles and I know what to look for what I described is not on the list to look for you need not comment unless you know what the fuck your talking about.

In any case I found the answer from my wife. She seed she might be a ccontrol personality and that's why she gives me this strange gold shoulder. Well we all went to there house to help out and I did what I normally would do. However I ignored there daughter and played with my kids and there kids but ignored her unless seed something. Well later I got a surprise my wife was right. she came right up to me and asked to play with them. I went off and played with all of them as normal. get your head out of the gutter you crazy people. They all like to play airplane. There parents would have seed something if it was a problem after all there parents know how we are.

There daughter is cute and there is nothing wrong with anyone saying that.

I don't get off when playing with any kids I just get feelings heart when any kids get upset with is why I get ticked off with morons calling any one a Pedophile just because they like to play with kids.
I will give you a tip Pedophiles go to parks and zoo's and the mall and they sit on a bench watching. How I know that. I am a parent you nut I read a book after a problem we just about had if I did not catch it. So start pointing your fingers to yourself next time you want to call any one a Pedophiles. Not every one is.

"you shouldn't even caer just foces on your kids"
that's how kids get killed you moron.
I think some people have a view that a hug from any stranger is wrong but you need to remember that's how kids find out if there safe. Yes Pedophiles know this but so should all parents. By the way. A Hug is a normal thing for any one to do. When you prevent hugs. Your kids will fear the world and start sucking there thumb That's the facts.

yea something about your story isn't quite right. I think you need to just focus on fucking your wife and not little girls, but that's just me.

and she seems shy around me now. Then a week or so goes by and she actually comes over. I make it a priority not to create confusion but she still seems colder than even her first day hear. Wife suggest taking them to the movies with us a few times can make piece. Then we have there mom come with us to the outdoor movies. She is apparently aware that her daughter has a crush on me. The movie was less watched than playing with them all. Then for what ever reason when they asked to be picked up they soon seed put us down she's coming. I start putting them down and look up and there mom is moving in our direction and not looking happy. then the kids go play in the sprinklers at the out door move and there mom walks back to her chair. This at the time confused me but my kids told me that there parents don't pick there kids up at all and rare hugs them at all. That got me thinking it may be less me and more something there parents are not telling us. As I told them at the pancake party the week after we treat others kids as our own and unless we are told otherwise picking them up is no big deal. We did not say that but that's our view. Now they moved 30 miles away and now they cant just walk over and now we all miss there playful minds. I would say that creepy ideas could come to mind in there parents but I don't see what we did that messed things up for there kids. I do miss there playful daughter. Her innocent way she wants to learn how to make things. Before you jump the gun I am not talking child molest. I am talking about the same playful things my kids do but she has come up with at times stranger solutions to things even I was impressed. She is like a daughter that I whish we had. Wife seas I have a innocent crush on there daughter. That might be true I don't know. All I know is she made my work a lot more fun and that is what I miss the most. Neighbors kids liked to cuddle with us and get hugs I wonder if cuddling is cottages.

And why you write this story again????!!!

Well its not molestation but thats what we all look at when some one shows any kind of apreciation for any one. Unless there married to yea your a pervert and yet when girls do the same thing its called cute. What a flipping double standard. Today She is now my step daughter. The family loves me as I actualy treat there kinds like family. I know its confusing but really the bad part is everyone seese the bad and never the good on this web page. Its hard to get any true good answers on this site so I will just start messing with people I mean thats what you all do is voice what you think based on your situation and not my situation. I expected this but did not beleave it till now. You can show another persons children apreciation and affection with out being a flipping molestation artest. What is bad as well is if I took your advices I would have done some wrong. But what I did was to be true to who I am. Molestation is when you go to fare with any one even a child. This was nothing more than Me being confused by anothers action ware I did nothing wrong but be a good host to all that came to my home. Remember your not trained to do this and unless you are a expert your views could and in this situation would be wrong. You could kill some one just by being egnerent.

this whole thing has me very worried about not only your children and the children you come in contact with...ummm the way you say "play with" and "playful" sounds very much like molestation...i could be wrong, but with out your elaboration this sounds really bad....i'm very confused and disturbed by this

actually i think it was freud who had a theory on something like that but it was more family related i don't remeber the exact details but it's called the electra complex now it may not be right on but it may give some insight especially if the little girl saw you as a stand in father figure you can look it up on wikipedia and there's also the oedipus complex both very interesting though

I was wondering about that. I'll have to see what to do if she was how to help her feel better about interacting with others.

Lmao, sounds like an MJ move. How old is this girl? You dont pick up other peoples children......... No matter what age, unless its a little kid and you have permission to take care of them.

No offense but I agree with dramakid..how the heck do you bite a check??
And I for one would not like to be bitten by anyone who is not family. And I think you should stick with playing with your own kids and maybe not bite other people

Sir, I think first off you should really learn your grammar, and second, what are you thinking? Stay away from anyone else's children, or go and get some counseling! You DO NOT pick up other kids! I don't care if you do it with yours! That girl's mom is going to get pretty weirded out sooner or later when she finds out that you miss her daughter coming over. YOU ARE A CREEP, AND I WOULD REPORT YOU!

You are kinda/really fucking dumb. It is NORMAL for a child to bite and flirt. It ISNT normal for you to act like your okay with it.
I would Keep my kids AWAY from you!

I think it's abnormal for you to pick up or hug another person's child. If her mother was uncomfortable with it that should have been your first clue that it was not acceptable. If I were her mother I would have most likely requested a meeting with you and your employer to review the situation... this did occur at work correct? It's difficult to follow your story... your spelling and grammer need work.

shes gonna b a hoe fo sho

You sound like a dirty dirty old bastard. We do this with our kids we do that with our kids. Child fucker in the making if you havent already done so