The 'if you loved me you would...' line

I think you're letting the past haunt you. It sounds like your boyfriend has been manipulative in the past, but if he isnt any more, then that should be ok. If you feel like you're being used, or like having sex with him isnt fully your choice or desire, then leave him.

OK. Here was the guy's initial proposition:

"If you really loved me, you'd let me fuck you, even if you don't want it and definitely won't like it, and you know I know want it anyway, because there are guys who give a damn if the bitch wants or likes it, and then there's me. Who only cares that the c--t said yes, so there's no way I can get hit by some lame rape charge. And it's hard to get chicks to agree to get fucked by a guy who's dying to do it because, man, we're talking about sex AND hurting and degrading and dehumanizing the chick AT THE SAME TIME.

Prostitutes won't even go with those guys, once word gets around. But, we're talking about you. You're here because you love me, which is a sure sign I cannot possibly fuck you up any more than you are. And, I'm here because I'm pretty sure you are messed up enough to actually STILL be in love with a guy who's just told her he's gonna love reaming her out, knowing he's hurting her, body and spirit.
Now, don't give me that, "If you really loved ME, you wouldn't ask me to" crap. DUH. Of course if I really loved you, I wouldn't be trying to guilt you into letting me turn you into my fucktoy, getting closer and closer to orgasm every time I jam it into you and feel you flinch and whimper and try to hide a sob.
And we're talking about what you should do because you love me, not what I would do or not to someone I loved. What I'd do if I actually loved a woman is completely irrelevant to you.
So, ok, you still love me, 'cause you're nuts, so you'll do it for me."

The girl refuses, because she's neither stupid nor fucked up.
She is, however, a woman, which means she thinks and feels like one, and does not quite get that men really do not need to even vaguely like a chick to want to pork her. She thinks the ex meant all the sweet-talking he did to convince her he was love-wrthy and loved her, and she's older now, which means she actually is starting to have the odd sexual desire, so she gets back with him and they are sleeping together.

And has a very bad feeling about it. Because all his bs, and all the bs to the effect that women owe men sex to make it up to men for letting them live, is, well, bs.

And it's totally normal for her to have said no the first time and be getting ready to say no more, now.

There are men out there who actually love women. (Heterosexual men; and gays who are still men, just not straight. Guys who've moved beyond the treehouse circle jerk. They are your type. You'll love -em. :)

maybe he did a douche move once, but over the time you've been with him, has that personality showed itself again? or is he a good guy besides that slip up?

Let him go.

"If you loved me...you would not let anybody stop you from living free"

Direct quote from me.

The 'If you loved me you would have sex with me' is kind of disgusting. But it's obvious your the one who has a problem with intimacy. It's not like he's a freak of nature because he wants sex. In fact that means he's physically and psychologically alot more intact than you are.

If you dont feel comfortable having sex with him, then dont. If he uses that line on your again, with anything at all, you should leave him because he will continue to manipulate you to get what he wants.

Haha.. Typical women mentality.. If it's going pretty good, you'd bring something from the past and ruin it for yourself and him.

not all men are good in the sack. does he not make sure your needs are met?

Talk to him about what you're going through. Communication resolves about 80% of all relationship issues.

Get prego then kill him XD JK not lol no really u should jk I really am I would nvr do that I think u should just play it by day Hun it's ok lov ya baby girl XD