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My ex and I have been broke up for two years, I literally think about him everyday and text him... He ignores every text I send and every phone call. He uses me for sex and that's it... But I still love him and can't seem to move on..IIN???
Definitely not normal and very unhealthy. Everytime you call, text or have sex with your ex is another chip off of what's left of your self esteem. Keep up this self destructive behavior and there will be nothing left but a pile of dust where your self esteem and respect used to be.
Stop destroying yourself! Try to find a therapist to see and/or check out the 12 step programs of Codependents Anonymous, Sex Addicts Anonymous and or Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
http://www.coda.org/
http://saa-recovery.org/
http://www.slaafws.org/
I'm a bit confused, how can he both completely ignore you and use you? If what you say is true, then he must be responding to you at times, inviting you over, etc.
In that case he is not ignoring you, but he is using you. You need to recognize this now, because when you cut him off or try to keep distance he will pay lots of attention to you, and that will be very difficult to resist.
Remember he is not ignoring you, he paying attention to you on his own terms and in order to use you...when that stops working, he'll try to change the tactic, but not the strategy. It's just a different way of achieving the same end...using you.