That i can't get over someone

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I am female and bisexual and I am currently in love with a female. We have been together for several months. We argue all of the time. Our current argument is about me wanting to spend the holidays with her. She wants to go home to spend time with her family. I do not have a family and I am always lonely during the holidays. She broke up with me several days ago and i begged her not to. She claims she is only with me because she feels sorry for me. I have tried to get over her, but I can't. I am attracted to her self confidence and I will never meet anyone like her again. or It could take many, many, years before I meet another person that I feel good about inside. I am getting older and my chances are going downhill. I ache for her. She tells me that i can call her but not on the weekends and not during the week, when we argue. The arguments are my fault mostly, because I am so insecure. I have been in counseling, but they give me medicine to take and that is it. Please help

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  • buttons
    11 years ago | pl

    This is so sad :c Love sucks baby girl. At least you can feel good about being the one who was really in love in the relationship and honest with your partner. You sound like someone who had a hard family childhood. I can relate to you. Sometimes i wish i had never fallen in love, because I have never needing anything so bad, problem is normal people can cope with this loss... Normally... We never got that growing up so when we get a taste of it, it can really take over. My only advice is to do something tommorrow that you would have never done before! Buy a flight, or learn to surf or something! Your addrenaline will give you a confidence boost, you may become addicted to trying new things and you can always depend on yourself. Love can do that too. Give you fufillment, problem is that it relies on the other person too much, something we have no control over.

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  • nothing2
    13 years ago | pl

    when a woman goes cold thats pretty much it, its over. i got that from some comedian.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    You should be so lucky never to meet someone like her - she treats you very badly. But if you enjoyed being a door mat, and in a relationship going no where then she was the gal for you. Boo hoo.

    Just get over her - and more importantly - quit acting like you can predict the future, and that it holds nothing but loneliness & tragedy for you. You can't possibly and don't actually know that.

    Put your energy into yourself. Use this girl for whatever you and she want. But at the same time move on - don't expect much - and actively look for the love in your life that you deserve.

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  • paaaandora
    13 years ago | pl

    I'm sorry but you need to get over this. Learn to let go and think positively about meeting someone new. Don't go on dating sites or go out with the purpose of meeting someone...it'll happen. Live life.

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