Texting this girl online then we met

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So I was texting this girl from tinder who lived really far away and we hit it off so so well, I began to develope serious feelings for her without having even met her yet we only texted for about a month and a bit but the chemistry was astounding we would send videos and voice messages to each other all day every day I mean ten hours of doing nothing else but talking to this girl, so we knew we had to meet we arranged it and I saw her last Friday, however she was really nervous and wasn't herself it was strange as if I was talking to a different person, but she stayed over and it was mostly somewhat awkward like not intense awkward just not good chemistry it was such a stark contrast to how we normally were, when she left the next day I broke down crying, I had such a connection with this girl and she was all I thought about for a month straight, and in one go all of those warm fuzzy feelings I used to get talking to her vanished. Shit hurt, and now idk what to do, I just wasn't attracted to the girl I met but I feel like maybe if her personality was the same irl it would've been amazing but it wasn't it was so anticlimactic.
I feel super depressed and I'm still texting her to see if the spark will reignite am I just clutching at straws? Is this not going to work out, if anyone had a similar experience please let me know what happened after and if it worked out.

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  • WeirdManFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    Its just a little social anxiety. Once she warms up to you she will start being herself more. She was just shy. Give her a chance.

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  • shuggy-chan
    4 years ago

    2 major differences, #1 over text you have time to think and what to say and its a different media to communicate thru

    And #2 we are more prone to fill in the blanks with things we want vs how that person might me in real life.

    Try to remember to keep an open mind next time with that in your head next time

    Whether its with this girl or the next one

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    4 years ago

    You were both probably under way too much pressure for it to go well that you couldn't relax. It'd probably take a lot of real life meet ups for you both to feel as comfortable around each other as you do online.

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  • mauzi
    4 years ago

    :(
    That’s how it will always be with falling in love over the internet. You’re connecting directly through each other’s thoughts, which is nearly impossible to replicate in reality unless youre both extroverted as fuck and or well adjusted. Also, your mind fills in a lot of the blanks to make them seem more perfect than they are.

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  • mia500
    4 years ago

    She's nervous the first time, be patient! Give her a few more go's and you'll start to see more and more of that open side that you met online

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    This is not uncommon for people who meet online. Maybe ya'll just aren't attracted to each other?

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    This is a common problem no doubt about it. This is why if you want an in-person relationship for sex, you should meet in real life. Online connection is good for online friends, but real life dating would work so much more. And for my other 2 cents that some people won't agree with, don't get into such a commited relationship. When you are at a point where one girl takes up that much of your mind, its very risky. To me it is not worth the risk to be that into someone in todays day and age, so I try my best to avoid it and spread myself more evenly.

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