I agree. I think that's true of transitions. Even though op only hinted at wishing to have a male figure. It's still good to remind someone of the precautions, just in case.
One can even identify as male, and portray himself as male, without changing the body. -I'm going to call op a "he" to make him happy--- Right now, the dilemna still, is convincing his mom to let him dress the way he wants.
Plus, ideally, op should be able to enter whatever phases he/she goes through-- as well as leave those phases as he pleases. Without having to worry whether his mother approves. Even if he/she potentially, winds up identifying as male for a while, then female for a while after. (as long he didn't make the long-term physical changes, that could affect those decisions when he's not ready)
thanks you for calling me 'he', it made me really happy. I've never really thought about going from one gender to the other (identity wise), and I sort of like the idea of it, although I feel like I wouldn't get any closure by doing so, just for my own personal satisfaction, but in the end, that might just end up happening anyways as a result of my indecisiveness.
I guess I mentioned the going-thru-gender phases idea, only because other people's comments claimed you seem to not know your identity yet. I wondered, maybe they said that, in response to your writing that this may be just another major phase.
I don't think their disbelief, means you're not ready to choose your identity, if you want to (whether you're ready to choose or not, is up to you). I figured, it helps relieve pressure on a person, to know there's no shame in phasing in and out of gender identities. So if you wanted to identify as male now, you don't have to worry about people's claims that you don't know who you are yet- even if you do wind up phasing out. I hope I didn't worry you though... and make you think that phasing in & out would be the inevitable for you- sorry. That, also will be up to you, and it may not happen at all, for all we know (only you would know that).
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I agree. I think that's true of transitions. Even though op only hinted at wishing to have a male figure. It's still good to remind someone of the precautions, just in case.
One can even identify as male, and portray himself as male, without changing the body. -I'm going to call op a "he" to make him happy--- Right now, the dilemna still, is convincing his mom to let him dress the way he wants.
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Plus, ideally, op should be able to enter whatever phases he/she goes through-- as well as leave those phases as he pleases. Without having to worry whether his mother approves. Even if he/she potentially, winds up identifying as male for a while, then female for a while after. (as long he didn't make the long-term physical changes, that could affect those decisions when he's not ready)
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thanks you for calling me 'he', it made me really happy. I've never really thought about going from one gender to the other (identity wise), and I sort of like the idea of it, although I feel like I wouldn't get any closure by doing so, just for my own personal satisfaction, but in the end, that might just end up happening anyways as a result of my indecisiveness.
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I guess I mentioned the going-thru-gender phases idea, only because other people's comments claimed you seem to not know your identity yet. I wondered, maybe they said that, in response to your writing that this may be just another major phase.
I don't think their disbelief, means you're not ready to choose your identity, if you want to (whether you're ready to choose or not, is up to you). I figured, it helps relieve pressure on a person, to know there's no shame in phasing in and out of gender identities. So if you wanted to identify as male now, you don't have to worry about people's claims that you don't know who you are yet- even if you do wind up phasing out. I hope I didn't worry you though... and make you think that phasing in & out would be the inevitable for you- sorry. That, also will be up to you, and it may not happen at all, for all we know (only you would know that).