Swinging with friends

You say she "relented", so sounds like she may have been pressured by you to agree to it. If you were a jerk in that pressuring, she may have been getting back at you. If she wasn't pressured into it and led you to believe she was truly into it, she broke the cardinal rule of couple's swinging - respecting boundaries, and can't be trusted in the swinger lifestyle.

If you want to see her get pleasure, see her fucking another man, seeing another mans erect cock pushing in her cunt and making her orgasm - then you don't need the distraction of his wife, the whole event has to be about your wife. Sure this makes you a cuck rather than a swinger, but you will see what you want.

You got what you deserved pal. If you cant appreciate what you ad she showed you a think or two. You showed her you didn't value your commitment and she taught you a lesson. And from the sound of it you learned NOTHING. Don't get married and you can screw around all you want. You got what you deserved.

we are ok together now and after being together for many years, i have to accept whats happened and get on with my life,i think about it everyday and although we do now talk about it i resent the fact she had sex which had nothing to do with sharing together.i don't even think about the sex with my pals wife not that she was,nt any good but i wanted something else,which i cant get my wife to understand,i wanted to see her get pleasure which i think is the thing that turns most men on.it felt like two separate affiars which is the last thing i wanted.but were doing ok even if i will never get her to understand what i,m saying.

i felt i was excluded from the whole reason i wanted to do the swap which was to watch her enjoy herself and bring my mate off as well but i got none of that.its not easy to shout halt when your all set for the sex and things change so suddenly.you get mixed up about how you feel and try to get over it but its not that easy to get a sack and shout as you say.

actually I didn't pressure her at all.we chatted about it at length of course,and I put my point across and I listened to hers as a couple should listen to each other.then we left it without any further discustion for 3 days and it was my wife who said out of the blue lets do it and she was very excited about doing it.she even came home from work saying to me she could,nt consebtrate properly as all she could think of was my mates cock going into her.

Uhhh the whole point of setting up rules and boundaries is so EVERYONE can be happy and enjoy themselves in this weird and maybe awkward time. My bf and I talk about this OFTEN. The whole point is him wanting to see me make another guy come. It would be weird for me to screw the guy in a different room, that's like..cheating , in essence. Plus your wife knew ahead of time what you wanted then she did het own thing? So foul. That's a major no-no in the swingers lifestyle...that's just fucked up to the max in my opinion. Sounds like a serious conversation needs to be had....both of you clearly are not on the same page when it comes to having sex with other people. The fact that she turned mean and responded like "you didn't like it? Don't ask then..." She doesn't seem like a team player. At all. This post really bothers me......sex is very vulnerable . I'm so sorry this happened to you. She's in the wrong, no way are you selfish !!