Supposedly addicted to a fictional character

I am well aware that crushing on fictional people is common, but for me, it has been going on for a good 4 years. Now, this is the first actual "crush" I have ever had, and surprisingly, it continues to stick with me.

Since I have developed this interest, (I'll start using pronouns) he has done nothing but make me absolutely and indescribably happy, unlike anything I have ever felt for anyone else.

I've done everything I can think of just to get these overwhelming feelings off my chest, having difficulty being able to keep them pent up, including drawing, writing, listening to songs that remind me of him, watching videos of him, and talking to myself and others about him.

I mentioned that these feelings I feel every day can be overwhelming, but often to a point where I just want to lay on the floor, smiling, laughing, and sometimes crying, just over this seemingly small cause. I feel things like butterflies and warmth in my stomach thinking of him, but then there would be situations where I feel nauseous, or sick.

It is very difficult for me to try to imagine my life without him, as I've just made him a crucially important source of happiness in my life. That's why, when I feel that my mind could be moving on from him, I get dreadfully upset. I sort of force myself back into my previous mindset, until things return to normal for me.

I would have never brought this up, nor thought about it until my friend mentioned it to me, with legitimate concern. He mentioned how much I bring it up during our every-day conversations, and says that I sound insane when I tell him the things I do because of this, telling me firmly that he believes I could have an addiction, or an obsession. My denial of an issue has negatively affected our friendship, to a point where he completely left me for a good bit because of it getting in the way of everything.

The reason I don't think there's a problem, is because I've never been this happy in my life, and nothing but positivity has been brought to me from this, bringing me to the conclusion, how bad could it possibly be? So I want to know, is this long lasting love for some fictional character an issue?

(I would greatly appreciate comments)
(If this is your second time seeing this, apologies. I wrote this a year ago, and haven't gotten over it, and wanted to word it a bit better.)

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  • When I was 13, I had an intense attraction to the character Ivy from the Soulcalibur video game series. It was more of a sexual thing though, I would masturbate to her pics and especially her cosplay actresses all the time. I couldn't see myself having a "crush" on her though.. Although I will admit when I was in third grade I guess you could say I had a "crush" on the character Kimi from the All Growed Up Rugrats spin-off. I think that's where my current attraction to asian women comes from...

    But this does seem kind of odd for you to be obsessed with a fictional character to this extent. I mean, even when I had my "crushes" as far back as third grade I knew they weren't real, and wouldn't bring it up in conversation other than "man, that Ivy character is hot, I wish she was real." and even then, only once. I guess it isn't a problem per se, but I wouldn't bring it up to IRL friends, at least not as often as you do.

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  • I do not think it is bad to crush at a fictional character that much, but you should keep it private and do not bring it up in conversations.


    You should definetly still keep it an intiative with real-life relationships when you have the chance to.

    I am curious, what is the characters name and from where ? :o

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    • The reason I talk about this around my friends is because they are a fan of the game this character is from. But not being able to "vent" about these specific feelings I have to others can be difficult. Thanks for the advice!

      And the reason I never said their name in the post is because it's a bit embarrassing lol. Might be more comfortable with sharing if they were human-

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      • I won't mind if it is non-human.But yes, I recommend it still to keep the lovey-part in private xD
        You could text it to me privately which character it is ^^

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        • I tried to send a message, but it says neither of us our "gold", which is apparently needed to send DMs

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  • My best friend was a waifuist and it was one of the factors leading to the breakdown of our relationship. It started to really disturb me, the way she talked about him as if he were real, the constant posting about him, the fact that she wouldn't listen to anyone when they told her it was unhealthy. Eventually a relationship with a fictional character will destroy you. You'll spend all your time being a recluse masturbating to pics of them, you'll never gain any real dating experience, if it ever comes out that you're a waifuist people will judge you harshly. You just can't get an actual relationship out of a fictional character. All the ups and downs and nuances are lost because it's completely one sided, and when you realize they can't reciprocate, they're not real and can't love you back, you get depressed.

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  • This is called having a "waifu" or a "husbando" and the weebs do it all the time. It's not really normal by societal standards but then again there are a bunch of degenerates on the internet who feel the same way so more power to you ig.

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    • Lol I'm not a big fan of anime, but I get you. Thanks for the comment!

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  • Who is it?

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  • 4th dimensional beings can’t be with 3 dimensional beings

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  • It's an issue because you constantly bring it up in conversation. People are going to think you're boring and a waste of time to hang out with due to always hearing about the same topic over and over. If you're going to obsess, keep that stuff to yourself and talk about other things with your friend. I have obsessions with fictional things: right now, it's Fire Emblem. The games make me super happy and sometimes I just get jittery and excited thinking about them when I'm by myself, but I don't bring it up in conversations that it doesn't belong in.

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