Stupid jealousy

can't you just discuss this with her?
let her know how it makes you feel everytime she mentions her exs and when she looks in the scrap books

If you 2 are gonna get married you should be open and honest to eachother.

If you explain your feelings to her about everything i'm sure she will not look at it anymore or put it away.

Imho I think keeping scrap books from ex boyfriends is ok just as long as you don't look at it everyday. i can understand why you'd look bck at good memories.

you just make sure she also makes a scrap book on you:) so you can replace the bfs scrapbook ;)

good luck!

You are fine, your g.f. is not, keeping her ex-s pics and talking to you about sex with them!

My husband and I both have pictures and "scrapbook" stuff from our ex's...they were a big part of our lives at one point...they helped shape who we are now...without them, we would have never found each other! Say, "yep, she's all mine now!"

I know how u feel but she won't get rid of the Picts until u tell her. If she really loves u she'll understand how u feel. I'm in the same situation and I'm afraid of asking my boyfriend.

It's normal in the sense that women do stupid things and are insensitive. They might mean well, but when it comes to anticipating the feelings of others, it's a one-way street with chicks. You're expected to be a mind-reader, which means that on top of magically knowing her every fleeting whim in advance, you're also supposed to understand that she "doesn't mean anything by it" when she does/says shit you really don't want to see/hear.

This is why, despite their claims to be sesitive, caring, understanding angels, all female-oriented workplaces are a hive of jealous, bitchy, gossipy whores. You have genitals which mark you out as being capable of reason and understanding - although it's not a foregone conclusion - which is why her retarded feminine nature confuses you. Don't sweat it. It's not her fault she's a spastic, but it's not yours, either.

Have you had the conversation yet? Because you're a man, you don't need a pretext to start talking. Just start talking. However, because she's a woman, you need to realise she is going to take the most offensive interpretation possible to whatever you say. So speak carefully, because she's going to act as though you just told her she's a whore. She is, by nature, but that's not your message.

i knew it wasnt normal!!id never dream of talking about exs let alone pics of them in a book! The more i think about it the more fucked up it sounds.

I don't know anyone who keeps scrapbooks, except 15-year-old schoolgirls who like ponies and giggling. Ridiculous.

Particularly ridiculous when it's a scrapbook dedicated to an ex-boyfriend.

Nobody wants to hear about their partner f*cking someone else. Full stop. I don't tell my wife about the amazing doggy style one night stand in my Hyundai back in 2004. Or the time an 18yo blew me in a cinema in 1997. Why not? Who the f*ck wants ot hear it. I don't care who, or how often, she screwed when she was a 20yo travelling through Europe. I don't wanna know about it.

So she's an immature moron to assume discussing her vagina being penetrated by other men, regardless of how long ago, is acceptable or desirable conversation with you.

She's also an immature moron to want to keep momentos of those former lovers. WTF?

You might be an idiot for proposing to her.

Tell her that you:
(a) no longer want to hear about her sex life pre-you. Full stop. You're not her f*cking girlfriend. Chicks want to brag about what whores they really are to their girl friends. That's not your job.
(b) won't tolerate the scrap books. She needs to commit to you for her future and let go of her past. Burning the scrap books is a good first step. Don't do it for her - she has to do it. If she can't, take the ring to a pawnbroker and get a grown woman, not some d*ckbrained adolescent.

oh i understand. she shouldnt talk about sex with others, out of respect. have you told her this, and not just slinked away? maybe she is looking for a reaction. or just being insensitive. im sorry, that sucks. i have pictures in albums of my exes too, and i never know if i should take them out... throwing them away would be too extreme but i can see putting them waaay out of the way or in a box. memories are still memories. good luck.

ps thanks fox i hope she feels the same

it just sux dude! I guess i'll just never know what women want! Im sure she KNOWS how it makes me feel..like i say, if i had pics etc of my ex it would be another story...am i not enough?

I get these same feelings when my girl friend mentions her ex's or if for whatever reason, I start to think about her ex's. I love her to death and she feels the same about me. Think about it like this, they had their shot but she chose you, no matter what she keeps from them. But if it makes you feel uncomfortable, tell her and try to work out a solution. Don't keep it inside! But don't blow up on her either.

She should not have them. If you are the one then she should have No problem getting rid of them.

If my husband kept "mementos" of chicks he's dated in the past, I'd tell him I'm throwing them out -he'd have to agree- and then I would burn them.

If on the other hand, they were just photos, then I wouldn't care because photographs are akin to memories, especially if they were from college or high school.

maybe im not secure enough..i wonder what would happen if the shoe was on the other foot?..i kinda want to find out. But is it wrong that im holding back?i cant let myself believe she's the one,as much as i want to the fact she has them...i just dont know..and its killing me :(

What? I think the last two comments were extreme. Everyone has a past which should be remembered so we learn from it but not held on to. There's a difference. There's nothing wrong with sharing past experiences with your new partner either. There's a reason it's in the past and your in the present. I can see how it might bother you if they ate out in your face all the time but throwing them away is not your choice or even necessary. Pictures are taken for a reason along with scrapbooks. Helllooooo. Maybe you could just ask her to put them away. If you were secure enough though it wouldn't bother you.

That's totaly normal, I think your even reacting calmly to this,I would tell her to get ride of those and focus on the future with you

She should not keep things from her ex around. Scrapbooks?! Are you kidding me. You need to put your foot down. Tell her to throw them out, that was her past and if she wants a future with you she shouldn't have them.