Strong urge to spoil and baby my man?

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Hes such a lil cutie pie!! Yes, I see him as a man and a male, but its hard to treat him that way. I just have this huge instinct to take care of him, not only from his looks, but also he's such a sweet person, and he's so innocent and animated when he talks. He's the most loveable person I know. He's always the joker of the crowd and has people either laughing or smiling. He's very quick-witted and sweet and I have yet to encounter a nasty bone in his body.

My fantasies always include me babying him, tickling him, blowing on his stomach, singing to him, baby talking him, holding him, and that's not exactly his cup of tea. I don't blame him. But he's had other GFs do this do him and he's even had close aquaintences and friends pinch his cheeks before. He's just so cute!

Why do I have these "mommy" instincts when they are starting to interfere with my relationship?

What can I do to fix this? When I try to see him as a lover and an equal, its hard. I want to put him ahead of me and spoil him and take care of him as much as I can! He always rolls his eyes when I start to treat him this way, but Im not clowning around. I tell him, "Well, stop being so cute!" and he says "Shit, I would if I could!"

Is it normal to want to treat him like he's a little guy?

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  • DiamondSurge
    13 years ago | pl

    Mormodes that wasn't a bad assumption, but it wasn't a true one. I didn't have a great relationship with anyone coming up. I had an alright relationship with my father, he tolerated me, but that was it. I'd say up until the age of 6, everything went swimmingly until I began to realize that most people my age weren't recieving beatings, psychological mindgames, sexual abuse, insults, and being made fun of by their peers. I'm not looking for sympathy. It's facts.

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  • bigguy2010
    13 years ago | pl

    I love it when my wife treats me like that. She doesn't do it all the time like you do, but when she does... Wow!

    I wonder if he realizes how lucky he is to have a wife who adores him so.

    I just hope he adores you in kind and treats you with the sane amount of kindness and respect you show him.

    Show him your post and this response.

    Hubby, we are lucky men!

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago | pl

    I dunno, I'd rather treat my cat like a baby. I can't be attracted to a guy I treat like a baby. It would feel creepy. Maybe you just want to mother something.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago | pl

    maybe you subconsciously want to have a kid with this guy?

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago | pl

    lucky guy

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  • Mormodes
    13 years ago | pl

    I am going to do something bad: assume. I assume you had a great relationship with your mother or some type of caretaker? Perhaps even your grandmother?

    We tend to pick up habits from them. The fact that you want to baby him so much stems from your experiences in childhood. See a therapist if you it really is interfering with your relationship though. Most people don't like to hear that, but if it will help, its worth a shot right?

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  • ashleyritawalton
    13 years ago | pl

    ya i suggest yu take this to a counseler cos this is not normal hun. +& if he dont like it then realy reconsider it, if yu were abused or sumthin it common to feel this way... i study psych &+ i kno that girls who were abused at a young age stay there permanently from a relationship perspective cos they cant love someone in a adult way, cos dey think that how much love yu get is equal to how young yu are, &+ they try to do it to theyre partners..... but im voting u not normal, pls get help, &+ i dont mean that in a mean way, but if u cant see him as ur man and he doesnt like the way u treat him then that can go downhill

    me personally i do think it cute and i dont care what anyone says :)

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    • DiamondSurge
      13 years ago | pl

      Yeah Ashley thats true and I have been abused for the majority of my life. But I dont let it affect me. After I land a comfortable spot my career Ill get help for Kyle, not for myself.

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  • DiamondSurge
    13 years ago | pl

    The first two who "threw up", y'all are hilarious. Keep it up with your maturity and youll wind up with blue balls and red hand prints on your face. You can expect many a woman to treat you like immature little bastards.

    And to big guy... thank you thank you. Its not easy work making someone feel like a king.

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  • gako
    13 years ago | pl

    *throws up*

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago | pl

    *vomits*

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