Straight, gay, bi, wtf?

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Ok so, I have had crushes on men/guys forever...I'm 19. But recently I have had feelings for some girls and they‘re sexual feelings lol like I have this HUGE crush on model Freja Beha Erichsen. But the thought of me having sex with a woman, I cringe at the thought. Kissing is ok, hugging is ok, sometimes I think about what it would be like being in a relationship with a woman, that makes me happy and relaxed. But when I think about what it would be like to be with a guy, I’m comfortable (because I know my family would approve) I’m relaxed and but there‘s drama, confusion, frustration, but now…recently I’ve found myself not being attracted to men! I don’t know what to do! I don’t know what this is…Is it normal to be attracted to men physically but not sexually, and to be attracted to women sexually, but not comfortable, or willing to have sex with a woman? Help…

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  • darnitjoan
    13 years ago | pl

    haha you're totally normal, I sometimes feel the exact same way. Try not to worry about it, because it really doesn't matter at all!

    lol at xinooo. fool.

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  • kittygirl109
    13 years ago

    Yes, it's normal. =]
    For me, I am somewhat emotionally attracted to women. But I'm only sexually/physically attracted to men, as well as emotionally. Women, I just have an easier time connecting to on certain levels, and I feel comfortable with them.

    Your sexuality and emotional attraction will change. When I was in high school, I thought I was a lesbian, then bi sexual, now I know for sure I'm straight. If you are young, your hormones are just going crazy.

    Whatever you feel, it's normal. Just go with how you feel. Trust me, what other people think DOES NOT MATTER. xD

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago | pl

    ^^ spoken like a true ignorant and uneducated fool.

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  • LovingTogether
    13 years ago

    Everybody is bisexual. Only religion and social mores try to get us to choose one or the other. I love both sexes, prefer female, but males offer a wonderful variety. Love everyone!

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    • BoredGuy
      13 years ago

      Not everyone is bisexual, in fact the majority are just simple straight. Your "new found" atheism made you confuse religion with morals, and most importantly with nature.

      I'm atheist. Became one completely on my own, using simply common sense. Anyone can do w/e he thinks its right for him, as long as he don't interfere with other people freedom(morals, religion or law?) but just cause others wont do it you don't have to "baptize" what you think is the "truth" as the given fact.

      In case you don't know what a straight man is: He likes pussy, and he can't even comprehend what a dick would offer him pleasurable. I just think you got in your anxiety to pleasure your woman. Anything that got your woman horny you conceived as the correct, your pleasure from dicks is that makes the pussy horny. Do you see the irony to that? ;)

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  • lvcumluver
    13 years ago

    I understand not wanting the world to see who you have sexual relations with. Being attracted to the same sex is normal. My ex-wife turned me on to having sex with men, and now I am totally hooked, it a part of my sexual life and I enjoy it more than straight sex, however I don't feel the need to or want to come out of the closet with it.

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  • Omega-Claws
    13 years ago

    Xinooo is so gay

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  • Crunchy_taco
    13 years ago

    How can you be sexually atracted to woman but not think of wanting to have sex with them? Kinda weird don't yah think?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Do what makes you happy! Unless that's killing people. Don't do that. That's bad.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    to be honest this post gave me a boner. by the way can i watch? x

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    ur confused, the best thing for you would be to be comfortable with yourself, not worrying abt ur family

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i feel exactly the same way , sex with another girl grosses me out too x !

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  • chicabonita
    13 years ago

    Bi curious! Try making out with a girl for fun :)

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    • LittleLover
      13 years ago

      I agree I thought i was les, bi, then straight and im still questioning. Its okay to not be sure. You WILL find out eventually

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  • AxeEffect
    12 years ago

    Just do what feels right. if sex with a woman feels weird then don't do it. However, i looked up Freja Beha Erichsen, and she kinda looks like a dainty man so that might explain it

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    • peterr
      10 years ago

      She does!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    STRAIGHT ALL THE WAY BABY! And that won't ever change, I love my boyfriend too much :)

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  • Jessie735513
    12 years ago

    I'm in the same position as you-it is totally normal, exciting and a little bit scary. I'm comfortable with my feelings now and whilst I am still anxious about getting physical with another girl but then again I'm nervous about getting physical with a guy-perhaps I am just a nervous person xD
    I prefer kisses and cuddles-it's the person that matters and just because you don't want to be intimate with a girl doesn't mean you're not bi :)

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  • brookiecookie
    12 years ago

    Why classify your orientation? Just go with the flow , experiment and be open to anything your comfortable with. That's what I do.

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  • dbwm
    13 years ago

    I felt exactly the same at 19, now I'm 24 and gay. You'll figure yourself out soon, have fun and experiment. You'll soon know for sure, don't worry:)

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  • welcome_to_nightmare
    13 years ago

    im a guy and a slightly gay bi-ish you know like theres some guy who id do but some re just really hot but not doable you know. nlike the guy off white collar "what a hunk" but i couldnt do him not sure why thoughy lol.

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  • that_red_sheep
    13 years ago

    calculating...
    Congratulations!!. you're a bi-sexual

    terms and conditions apply.

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  • bronxgirlinorlando
    13 years ago

    ok my friend i think that maybe you are gay which i see nothing wrong with that,and maybe you are afraid of letting go ! hey try it with aguy and mybe that will answer your questions ! good luck

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  • Zombie_girl08
    13 years ago

    OK! Got it, noo reason to continue commenting on my story. I was, well i'm not sure what that episode was, but i can tell you it is over, i like men, women are beautiful but not for me BTW I am a girl. To the comments that were helpful and encouraging: Thank you, thank you! :} such kind and wonderful people on this website :*
    <3

    To the people that didn't do anything but take up space and wait their own time: Suck my clit x} OH! and piss off LOL

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    • peterr
      10 years ago

      And seeing that you like men now you can suck my cock and swallow my cum. It will give you shiny hair. Yours might need the protein if you have been having a steady diet of cunt.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Sexuality can change all through your life. Not a big deal.

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  • red678
    13 years ago

    You may just have to experiment discreetly and then decide

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  • AnimalsLoveMe
    13 years ago

    someone please help with my problem

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  • iisabel
    12 years ago

    most people are sexually fluid, dont worry about it. its just that most people are also too insecure to admit it

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  • Trismegistus
    13 years ago

    You are not gay,not by,or anything of that nature.
    You are just attracted to good looking guys and gals.Because you see them as esthetically superior.And you wanna prove yourself as one of them by having sexual intercourses with them.
    Cause to you sex is the culmination of a beauty ego trip.You don't feel attracted to ugly fat old teethless ladies right?You don't have "sexual feelings" for girls and women,you have those feelings for beauty itself.The whole thing.
    Let me get this straight.You are attracted to men phisically.Meaning:They make your waters flow.Am I right?But not sexually.Meaning:They don't get you emotionally aroused.Am I right?
    And now you are basically dreaming about getting banged by a woman with a dick.
    Am I right?So you now have two options:
    1)Find a very feminine girlie male.I can guarantee you he will turn you on.
    2)Make out with a transexual who still hasn't got his sex change and is somehow attracted to women.Very difficult to find.
    Alternatives:
    Threesome.Strapon.But I doubt the kind of men you are into will ever accept to get sodomized by you wearing a strapon.

    Note:From your post it isn't clear whether you are a male or a female.It's like you are not even there.That says it all.
    I just assumed you are a woman from clues.
    But if you are a boy/man it's all kind of a different game.
    Let's start all over.If you have been gay until you started to feel attracted to women such as this model you are talking about,that means that for some reason you grown tired of men.
    As I got tired of you.I'm sick of this.I'm out of this weirdos den.

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    • Zombie_girl08
      13 years ago

      Loser you wasted your time writing that looongg comment. Keep it short and simple: 'you're a freak, and i don't care.' See how simple and easy that was?? Lmaoo dumbass, like i give a rats ass what you think *NEWS FLASH* you are not me :}

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  • mluker
    13 years ago

    Ha ha hA good luck with the gay deal. I say never go gay. Why do people do it? I'm not saying I know it all. But the normal thing in life- is to share life with a partner of the OPPOSITE sex. And hanging with another dude is usually called your buddy. NOT Fuck buddy. That's just gay. Lol hope many are offended by this. Lol

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    • nakedman
      10 years ago

      im thinking your gay- in more ways than 1 !!!! XD

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Lol totally agree

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  • xino00
    13 years ago

    i think you should spend more time with men!

    or lock yourself away from men and sooner and later you would crave for them so bad!

    it's not good to be bi/gay:/

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    • nakedman
      10 years ago

      why isnt it?

      Im bi, so what are you saying?

      I think you and mluker are hiding your gay/bi feelings by insulting them!!!

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