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Ok, so my girlfried and I aren't going to the same college. She has welcome week which is full of parties. She wants to go but I know there's drinking and I'm afraid she might do anything when drunk. I feel so bad because I'm stopping her from experiencing what college fun is about. What should I do?
LET HER GO...if she misses freshers week shell have a really hard time making friends. If you cant trust her while shes drinking and not around you, this relationship is never going to work, there will be a million opportunities for her to drink and cheat aside from freshers week and you just have to trust her not to
You're trying to prevent something that can cause a break up. I say it's normal. Hell, I don't get how people can do stupid things and not think for 2 seconds how it can change everything. You should tell her that if she goes and gets smashed and has sex with someone else, it's over.
My boyfriend was the same way. My suggestion is to sit down and have a talk with her. Depending on how long you guys together. You should be able to trust her. My bf and I set some boundaries such as me having my phone with me when I go out - having a friend (who's also in a relationship) that you can rely on to look after you if you do get drinking - and our number one is calling as soon as I get home. But if you want the relationship to work out, give her some breathing space because this is her time too. For example: relax if she doesn't reply to every single text or misses a call , she's with her friends and there could be TUNS of reasons she's not texting back (like bad service/loud crowd/dancing/etc).
Hope that helps =)