The more you think about it the more you will think about it, try and break the cycle. If you are hearing stuff about him from friends tell them (if they are friends once will be enough) to stop. Tell then you don't want any more new reports about him or his life anymore.
I cope with memories that are hurtful and make me sad or angry by telling myself that the people only still exist in my imagination.
If you don't see the people anymore then to an extent this is true, you might not know if they are alive or dead or what the look like anymore. In your mind they are the same and it is there that you keep these things alive.
You have the power to choose to be happier. It is within your complete control. Tell yourself this. When thoughts of him, or his girlfriend or anything that hurts comes into your head tell yourself how silly it is to think of them and just think about something else, put on a movie or music or do something you enjoy that will take your mind off it.
It's not about suppressing memories or denying them it is just about not actively perpetuating them. Thinking about these things is just a form of self harm. The more you fill your mind or occupy your time with other stuff the less these thoughts will occur and the less they will hurt after a while.
Still Not Over My Ex
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The more you think about it the more you will think about it, try and break the cycle. If you are hearing stuff about him from friends tell them (if they are friends once will be enough) to stop. Tell then you don't want any more new reports about him or his life anymore.
I cope with memories that are hurtful and make me sad or angry by telling myself that the people only still exist in my imagination.
If you don't see the people anymore then to an extent this is true, you might not know if they are alive or dead or what the look like anymore. In your mind they are the same and it is there that you keep these things alive.
You have the power to choose to be happier. It is within your complete control. Tell yourself this. When thoughts of him, or his girlfriend or anything that hurts comes into your head tell yourself how silly it is to think of them and just think about something else, put on a movie or music or do something you enjoy that will take your mind off it.
It's not about suppressing memories or denying them it is just about not actively perpetuating them. Thinking about these things is just a form of self harm. The more you fill your mind or occupy your time with other stuff the less these thoughts will occur and the less they will hurt after a while.
Before you know it you will be over it.