Sticky situation with roomate and sex

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Okay guys I need some advice here. I recently met an amazing female whom I intent to be sexual with often in the future but there's a problem. She living with her angry ex right now and says I can't come over because of that which I understand. But we need somewhere good to smash and right now I'm in a college dorm with a roomate sorta friend of mine. Its awkward because I want to get him to let me have the dorm to myself but he doesn't morally approve of me having sex before marriage so he hesitatant to let me have it. I'm really annoyed that he gets any say but idk what to do and last time he almost walked in on us naked. I need a solution and my roomate is on on the fence. So basically I have two questions :

Is him not letting me have the room a dick move or does he have a case?

What should I do maybe to compromise or maybe have sex somewhere else?

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Your roommate has the right to come, and go from the dorm whenever he pleases just like you do. He's doesn't owe it to you to leave the dorm he's also paying to stay at so you can get laid.

    You need to find someplace else to go if you're gonna mess with this girl, but if you do please know that you are probably helping her cheat on some guy, because people don't continue generally live with their exes post breakup.

    If this girl is still living with her ex then she's not available. Honestly, the roommate is doing you a favor, because she's probably still with her so called ex.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      She lives in the same apartment with separate beds than him and if she tells me shes not cheating and it turns out she is that is on her not on me.

      My friend can and will give me the damn room and I have given it to him before many times even before when he was doing stuff I didn't approve of.

      Me and him are for the most part good friends and do all sorts of things for eachother so why isn't it fair if he does for me what I've done for him countless times?

      I mean he already reluctantly agreed to give me a few hours tommorow and I'm kind of his only friend so I can and will manipulate him into being fair with me. I'm going to get my damn room when I want it.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        What was he doing that you didn't approve of where you were expected to leave the room?

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Underage drinking and also vaping at one point but hes quit that now.

          I'm tired of poeple thinking I have no morals at all just because I'm promiscuous with sex.

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          • Sad18yo
            4 years ago

            9/10 people that aren’t promiscuous with sex is denying their own desires imo lol 😂

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Facts!

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          • Clunk42
            4 years ago

            Why would you have to leave the room because of that?

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  • Toledorwb
    4 years ago

    Get a motel you loser

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      3 to 5 days a week? That's a lot of money for two broke college students.

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      • Clunk42
        4 years ago

        Wait, you want him out of the room for three to five days a week?

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Yes for a few hours. Nothing I didn't do for him.

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          • Clunk42
            4 years ago

            For a few hours each day or a few hours each week?

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Maybe like an hour and a half or two hours on weekdays and 3-5 on weekends. He has lots of shit he could do. He said himself, since I posted this, that the time is not an issue for him. He is busy as hell and probably only spends like an hour a day in the dorm not sleeping anyways.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    4 years ago

    Go to a secluded area in your car and bone there? My boyfriend saw this post and that's his suggestion. Just dont get caught. XD

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Hey that's an idea if we really need one but I think I will be able to convince my roomate to let us have it. Also it's cold as hell right now where I go to school so that would be pretty cold and also we wanna do lots of kinky shit and different positions which would be hard in my tiny car. Keep in mind I'm 6'4" 250.

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        4 years ago

        Ah ok. Then if you can convince him, go ahead.
        :)

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          I did today already lol I got this

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          • Cuntsiclestick
            4 years ago

            Good for you. Both of y'all enjoy yourselves!
            :)

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              I will and hopefully get pegged.

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  • Iszzy123
    4 years ago

    I’m on ur room mate side the girl ur planning to bone seem to have issues she lives with her ex and what you going to do if she get pregnant I don’t see anything good coming out of this find a new girl

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    • Ellenna
      4 years ago

      That's none of the room mate's business ... or yours, or mine

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Condom + pull out method. Pretty fool proof. Can't do much better than that unless your gay!

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Not wearing a condom is a great way to catch a disease.

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Yes I know Rose you have told me that 10000000000000000 times. I use one for vaginal to get close to the breaking point where I could cum at any moment and then pull out, take off my rubber and cum in her mouth or on her face. Using a condom during oral is just fucking stupid. In my opinion of course!

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          • Ellenna
            4 years ago

            You do realise STI's can be passed on other than in the vagina?

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  • jethro
    4 years ago

    I used to have sex with my girlfriend, in my dorm room, with my roommate in the room. We would come back after he went to sleep and just went to town. Granted my girlfriend wasn't a screamer but she would moan. Sometimes the roommate heard us but who cares. It's just as much your room as it is his. As long as you aren't screwing in his bed. Tell him to get over it.

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      Finally, the voice of reason!

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        He would definently hate that way worse when we do spanking and bondage and shit plus we both make a good deal of typical sex noises.

        So I might as well just bring her up and bend her over and that would get him outta there but that wouldn't be a very considerate thing to do.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Yeah I thought about just doing it anyways but keep in mind hes trying to stay super pure and everything so I know he wouldn't be okay with that. Anyways though I'm not the quietest during sex and neither is she and also were doing kinky shit like spanking and other bondage set ups and things which require the lights to be on.

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      • jethro
        4 years ago

        Well get a hotel room then. It seems like you have a problem for every solution.

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Well I think the solution is just to convince him to leave us the room which he is doing.

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  • Clunk42
    4 years ago

    Oh yeah, just force someone out of the lodging they're paying for! That's fair! Also, your friend's reasoning makes sense. Why let your friend do something immoral when you can stop them?

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      This!

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      I would do it for him in a heart beat and have done so many times! I do not think its immoral in the slightest and have ny right to that opinion. I have let him drink underage before in the room and I don't think he should be doing that but that's not my business.

      I kind of expected this useless response from you tho because you all religious and shit. But I have the room to myself for 6 hours tommorow and you know what's going down!

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      • Clunk42
        4 years ago

        Well, is drinking underage actually immoral? I don't consider it to be so. Not immoral, just bad for you.

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Yes I *consider* it immoral just like you *consider* premarital sex immoral. I think your belief is fucking retarded and who knows maybe you think the same about mine?

          But that's not the point of this post. I want you to try and detach from your personal morals and just think about the situation differently. My roomate is hesitant to give me the room to myself to shag my girlfriend because he considers that immoral, but yet I have given him the room before and let him do stuff I consider immoral.

          I don't think what hes doing is fair or considerate and if you disagree, FINE! But don't base your opinion on your personal morals because I don't give a fuck about your personal morals and I find them appalling.

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          • Clunk42
            4 years ago

            Well, if you consider it immoral, why'd you let him do it?

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Because I'm not the police, his religious leader or parent so it's not my business unless hes harming someone else. I don't see why it's so hard to understand.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    He is not your dad. Tell him to mind his own business. You have a right to do what you want.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      I have told him but hes being stubborn. He thinks it's a horrible sin to have sex before marriage.

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  • lordofopinions
    4 years ago

    Your roommate is a dick or living in the dark ages. Just go for a cheap motel room.

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  • Aboveaverageguy
    4 years ago

    Your roommate should learn to not be judgemental.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Yes I agree.

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    So there's only one room? If you move into that situation how can you expect whoever you're sharing with to move out when you want to have sex?

    What's more, if she's still living with this other bloke, he's not yet an ex: why is she still with him anyway?

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      Um hmm...

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      She calls him her ex because that's what they agreed on. They sleep separately and don't have sex with eachother and see other people. So basically as close as you can be apart while still living together.

      Yes me and my same age roomate share one room. It would not be that difficult for him to give me the time that I want. He said himself that it wouldn't be inconvenient time wise but he just doesn't want me have sex before marriage.

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      • Ellenna
        4 years ago

        That's what she tells you, right? Have you checked this out with the "ex"?

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          No I haven't talked to her much about it and I don't plan to. I'm just planning to trust her for now. If it turns out that shes actually cheating I don't think you can blame me.

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          • Ellenna
            4 years ago

            Her ex is another woman? I thought from an earlier post of yours it was a bloke?

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              What? No it's a guy lol. When I said talk to her about it, her meant my gf.

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  • BleedingPain
    4 years ago

    He does share the place so if, for example, he were a germaphobe, maybe. But his morals should not impede your actions. Tell him to rightfully get fucked.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Yeah since I've posted this I've pretty much got him convinced. I'll be thrusting soon.

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      • BleedingPain
        4 years ago

        Good, you sick fucker 👍

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          And I'm at minus 1...

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          • BleedingPain
            4 years ago

            Now you are at 0 :)

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Update. The sex was good she came 5 times

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Awww thanks bro

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  • Annie25
    4 years ago

    Oh god what an asshole roommate you have its not like its his house or something who the fuck is he to approve of your life
    I dont understand that girl is LIVING with her ex?!

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    • Clunk42
      4 years ago

      But it is his house. He pays for it.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Yeah it's weird that she lives with him I know that but shes broke asf just like me. And yes my roomate is being a cunt but I got what I want from him, for today at least.

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      • Annie25
        4 years ago

        Well in tgat case there is nothing you can do I'd advice you to not visit her ex house even if hes not there the situation might turn ugly even with all precaution
        Yall can go for a long ride far off place
        Other than that I think its gonna be a problem

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Yeah we are going to go to a hotel every now and again probably but also my room once I straighten out my roomate situation.

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  • Mammal-lover
    4 years ago

    Of course it's you.. dude use common sense the solution to the problem is easy

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  • Wellyoudliketoknoweh
    4 years ago

    Go to Japan and rent a room in a love hotel haha

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      That's JUSTTTTTT out of the budget

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    4 years ago

    Well if that's the only reason he's not letting you have the room to yourself then yeah it's a bit inconsiderate. He should respect your opinion on sex before marriage. He can't claim that the reason he's not giving you the room is cos it'd be inconvenient for him since it's not like you're asking for the room all the time or anything.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Yeah I mean it is a little bit inconvenient just for the time but I feel like he would give me that time no problem if hes wasn't against premarital sex. I think I can gradually convince him tho I'm working on him.

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      • JellyBeanBandit
        4 years ago

        Well I'd definitely point that out to him then if he claims that that's the only reason he won't let you have the room. Good luck!

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Yes I will and thank you mate.

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          • JellyBeanBandit
            4 years ago

            No problem :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Your roommates a dick what a cockblock. Treat her like a hooker bring her to a hotel.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Ahhhhhh we meet again. I think hes being a dick as well. Such a nice person when it comes to anything else but with religion hes sour and salty AF. Hotel is a good idea it's just expensive to rely on. Like 3 or 4 times a week we should pay a couple hundred dollars just to have sex? I like that idea on occasion though so we can sleep together and have a better bed and everything but it's not a complete solution.

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    He's a fucking dick. You can do whatever you want with a girl, he has nothing to say about it. Tell him to get fucked.
    You can invite this girl when he isn't there can't you?
    Can't you lock the door when he's out?

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      He has a room key that's the same as mine so I can't really lock him out. When hes gone sounds like a good idea but hes rarely gone at the time I need and my gf is only free a few times so it would be hard to work out. Also I would like longer to do more foreplay and aftercare and also kinky shit. I do agree hes being a cunt tho.

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      • DIO
        4 years ago

        What about when her ex is not home?
        If you have a few bucks you can still go to a hotel room. Or maybe find an empty room in your school?

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Yeah that would work except her ex and her agreed they wouldn't bring anyone else over and her ex also has 3 kids and she has one that they help eachother watch so there would almost always be kids home as well. I don't really agree with her on the agreement she made but what can I do? If I argue with her I only risk upsetting her.

          Hotels were Twerknhbu's idea and I like it I just don't think it's a complete fix because were both kinda broke but we will do it sometimes definently. I think I should be able to get my roomate out if there even if I have to give him something. Empty room at my school is an idea I just don't know how I'd get one. Also the dorm beds are AWFUL for sex with how narrow they are plus all the rough edges and I have a couch in my room which works great for sex.

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