Dear Avant-Garde, your advise is quite inappropriate for this situation, due to the fact that the kid might have probably born like that and did not experience the need until it activated his inner emotions. Kids at that age don't know and understand anything about boundaries and much less about violating other people's personal space and privacy. Advising the kid at that age, about what is right and wrong and the consequences of his acts, is a more effective way to making him understand about the situation than just punishing him, and prohibiting things to him. Punishing him, you only drive him into the creepy side in his adolescence because he might find it frustrating and as something that is bad but pleasurable and therefore act with negligence. By advising him, he might start thinking twice about the situation hi is putting him self into. Also, teaching him about asking permission before doing so is always better and is not frustrating as when you said no.
I re-read my comment. In it I advised against punishment. You can teach boundaries without punishment. I suppose I was being unrealistic. I don't think most kids have an automatic grasp of boundaries unless they're taught to. I certainly had my fair share of social faux pas.
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Dear Avant-Garde, your advise is quite inappropriate for this situation, due to the fact that the kid might have probably born like that and did not experience the need until it activated his inner emotions. Kids at that age don't know and understand anything about boundaries and much less about violating other people's personal space and privacy. Advising the kid at that age, about what is right and wrong and the consequences of his acts, is a more effective way to making him understand about the situation than just punishing him, and prohibiting things to him. Punishing him, you only drive him into the creepy side in his adolescence because he might find it frustrating and as something that is bad but pleasurable and therefore act with negligence. By advising him, he might start thinking twice about the situation hi is putting him self into. Also, teaching him about asking permission before doing so is always better and is not frustrating as when you said no.
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I re-read my comment. In it I advised against punishment. You can teach boundaries without punishment. I suppose I was being unrealistic. I don't think most kids have an automatic grasp of boundaries unless they're taught to. I certainly had my fair share of social faux pas.