Hello. I write because I am deeply concerned about the well-being of your child both as a foot fetishist and as a father myself. By the sound of your story about him turning to your used clothes, and crying - I think you have gone beyond teaching him boundaries. I think that by trying to remove his fetish from his life, you have exasperated it and made it far worse. Intervention in these kinds of things is dangerous in my opinion, as even specialists don't understand it yet. I think you need to let him satisfy his desire, while also teaching him that if I woman doesn't want him to do it, then he shouldn't. That includes you too, obviously; if you don't want him to do it to you, don't let him. But, I don't think any harm was coming out of the relationship he had with your old babysitter and I think the fact you fired her shows you are being too protective. I completely disagree that a foot fetish results in the objectification of women. If a boy is taught that women are not sex objects and real humans that should be respected, he should incorporate that into his sex life. I think that the anecdotal evidence provided in this thread are personal issues, rather than scientific and should be taken lightly.
Obviously, this is your child and it is your decision as to how you approach this problem. However, I advise you to let his sexuality develop naturally, rather than artificially intensifying it and causing distress for your son.
Thank you for your time, I pray things get better for you and your family.
Thanks John. As a parent too, I'm sure you wrestle with what is best. I can't say everything I did was perfect - though I have tried my best. The out of control behavior has disappeared - whether it is sublimated or redirected away time will tell.
I'm sure once he gets older and if he still has this desire, he can find a young woman who will fulfill all his desires, but as his mother I had to set boundaries.
Your other points are well taken about teaching him about respect for women and not to view them as sex objects. I don't necessarily agree on permitting or creating an environment for the other things to flourish but as we are both noting, we have to make what we think are the best decisions for our children.
Thanks for your thoughts, I do deeply appreciate them!
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Hello. I write because I am deeply concerned about the well-being of your child both as a foot fetishist and as a father myself. By the sound of your story about him turning to your used clothes, and crying - I think you have gone beyond teaching him boundaries. I think that by trying to remove his fetish from his life, you have exasperated it and made it far worse. Intervention in these kinds of things is dangerous in my opinion, as even specialists don't understand it yet. I think you need to let him satisfy his desire, while also teaching him that if I woman doesn't want him to do it, then he shouldn't. That includes you too, obviously; if you don't want him to do it to you, don't let him. But, I don't think any harm was coming out of the relationship he had with your old babysitter and I think the fact you fired her shows you are being too protective. I completely disagree that a foot fetish results in the objectification of women. If a boy is taught that women are not sex objects and real humans that should be respected, he should incorporate that into his sex life. I think that the anecdotal evidence provided in this thread are personal issues, rather than scientific and should be taken lightly.
Obviously, this is your child and it is your decision as to how you approach this problem. However, I advise you to let his sexuality develop naturally, rather than artificially intensifying it and causing distress for your son.
Thank you for your time, I pray things get better for you and your family.
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Thanks John. As a parent too, I'm sure you wrestle with what is best. I can't say everything I did was perfect - though I have tried my best. The out of control behavior has disappeared - whether it is sublimated or redirected away time will tell.
I'm sure once he gets older and if he still has this desire, he can find a young woman who will fulfill all his desires, but as his mother I had to set boundaries.
Your other points are well taken about teaching him about respect for women and not to view them as sex objects. I don't necessarily agree on permitting or creating an environment for the other things to flourish but as we are both noting, we have to make what we think are the best decisions for our children.
Thanks for your thoughts, I do deeply appreciate them!