I did read it - nine months later. I truly appreciate your insights as someone who has lived through it. Ironically, when he was questioned about why he likes the smell, he said they smelled like flowers to him. Now some may say it is innocent in that sense... but I do wonder about the sexuality.
Unfortunately, something has happened since then which I am deeply concerned about. I had a coworker who I trusted to watch him while I was working - she did this for two months and always wore her work outfit when she came from work (other days she wouldn't but wore pantyhose it seemed). I came home early one time and she was letting him sniff her nylon feet - she was sitting on the couch and letting him sniff away.
When I questioned her further she told me all my questioning about it made her feel sorry for him and she just wanted him to enjoy it. I was outraged as a mother and asked her never to come to my house again. So, whatever imprinting I was trying to prevent is definitely permanent I'd think - it turns out she did this for the entire two months.
Like some in the thread suggested that I just let him, she did and it seems his behavior is less compulsive. I read somewhere else that my pantyhose could be an issue too so I've taken to handwashing these and my socks after every shift (I used to let them stack up in the hamper as I have to go to a laundromat and frankly wasn't tracking if they'd been moved or raided). I suppose some on this thread would have said just hand them to him and let him sniff mine, but I am obviously opposed to that.
I try to ask my coworkers to change before coming over and we have a new rule to keep shoes on in the house. I feel like I've flipped to oppressive (and therefore suppressing these desires) and am thinking of changing jobs. Yet, I feel like my coworker who babysat him has 'sealed the deal' or in the best case, satiated the curiosity.. time will tell.
Thanks for your thoughts- I truly appreciate them.
Son keeps smelling my coworkers feet IIN?
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I did read it - nine months later. I truly appreciate your insights as someone who has lived through it. Ironically, when he was questioned about why he likes the smell, he said they smelled like flowers to him. Now some may say it is innocent in that sense... but I do wonder about the sexuality.
Unfortunately, something has happened since then which I am deeply concerned about. I had a coworker who I trusted to watch him while I was working - she did this for two months and always wore her work outfit when she came from work (other days she wouldn't but wore pantyhose it seemed). I came home early one time and she was letting him sniff her nylon feet - she was sitting on the couch and letting him sniff away.
When I questioned her further she told me all my questioning about it made her feel sorry for him and she just wanted him to enjoy it. I was outraged as a mother and asked her never to come to my house again. So, whatever imprinting I was trying to prevent is definitely permanent I'd think - it turns out she did this for the entire two months.
Like some in the thread suggested that I just let him, she did and it seems his behavior is less compulsive. I read somewhere else that my pantyhose could be an issue too so I've taken to handwashing these and my socks after every shift (I used to let them stack up in the hamper as I have to go to a laundromat and frankly wasn't tracking if they'd been moved or raided). I suppose some on this thread would have said just hand them to him and let him sniff mine, but I am obviously opposed to that.
I try to ask my coworkers to change before coming over and we have a new rule to keep shoes on in the house. I feel like I've flipped to oppressive (and therefore suppressing these desires) and am thinking of changing jobs. Yet, I feel like my coworker who babysat him has 'sealed the deal' or in the best case, satiated the curiosity.. time will tell.
Thanks for your thoughts- I truly appreciate them.