Social awkwardness...

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hey..i'm 18, female and i dont have many friends. most of them i guess are just acquaintances. I just finished my high school and i haven't found real friendship yet. Somehow it's hard for me to socialize with other people especially with girls, although i can relate to guys quite easily.
It's pretty easy for me to start a conversation with a stranger but it's hard to maintain the relationship. Is that normal? i mean some people usually have trouble to start a conversation but when they know someone, the relationship can last a long time.
i kept on wondering if there is something wrong with me? do i have a personality disorder or something.
although i like being alone most of the time, but i also love the presence of other people. as time passed, more people i know seem so far away from me. like i can no longer have any connection with them. sometimes it feels awkward to talk to them eventhough they're my friends. and seriously...the awkward air when the silence come is something i want to avoid.
i know i'm probably not the only one who is like this but this still makes me sad.
i hope i can at least be a little bit normal and can talk to the people i know more casually.

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  • Spikey007
    14 years ago

    Don't worry! You're VERY normal. I have the same issue. I hardely have any friends, mainly just acquaintances that I see from time to time but never really get to spend a decent amount of time with them on a regular basis and I feel left out. And then you see all these groups of friends that go to the beach together or shop togeter and wonder why you're not with them. I'm trying to figure it out too. If you want to talk with me about it, perhaps we can help each other out? Message me if you do and perhaps we can swap emails or something =)

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  • roothead1
    13 years ago

    I'm exactly the same way. Only the people I talk with just like watching tv and hanging out. I have hobbies, but none of my hobbies are things that interest the people at my work. So yea, it does suck.

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  • ctbpdx
    14 years ago

    You sound like you could potentially be autistic, or just antisocial. I'm also autistic, and most social situations with more than one person can be extremely awkward or frustrating for me. As for being alone, perfectly normal. I crave my alone time, because it lets me 'defragment' everyhting's that happened in the day, and break it down into how I felt about it.

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  • SeniorKenzo
    14 years ago

    One thing I'm beginning to realize is that being social comes from being completely relaxed, no matter who it is you're talking to. When you're around people, treat a conversation like you were talking to a close family member (without saying anything too personal, of course.) Whenever you're going out, practice being relaxed and just not giving a sh*t what others think.

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  • rosesrred
    14 years ago

    I can relate with what you are saying. I am an introvert but do enjoy socializing in small groups. The more time away from people you can feel isolated. How to get over it? Initiate and maybe combine a regular activity--exercise buddy. Be involved in your interests and you'll meet others with those interests. I, too, have trouble making close friends. So no, you're not weird!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Do you do things besides talk with people? Maybe you're needing more than talk to connect & enjoy other's companionship & develop through these & over time friendships.

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    • gardan
      14 years ago

      i wish i had friends

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  • Vyzr
    13 years ago

    If you cant make any friends in the real worl play wow. Its a really fun game. Id highly recomend it cuz im socially akward too and eventually my friends seem to get farther away, accually they arent close enough to be my friends i barely know anything about them. But nonetheless they get farther as if they dont wanna talk to me anymore, so i just play stuff online cuz its not so boring.

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  • wschnoobs
    14 years ago

    grow a pair and make friends

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