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She's so unpredictable, like one moment she normal then another she crying. Why do women act like this? Just suck it up and move on. Is it normal that I feel like shes over dramatic? I do not want to come off as rude.
Why do you even care? She's your ex. Sounds like you're the one who's having trouble moving on.
We got back together. I guess I missed her craziness? I have no idea. She says she knows that she can be a handful at times and is going to work on controlling her emotion. We have been together for more than 6 years. She is my best friend, just trying to understand. Thanks for your input.
She's an ex, move on.
What bothers me is your generalization. IIN isn't your echo-chamber, we're not going to rally behind you to shit talk women and your ex-girlfriend. The reality is, you're picking the wrong type of girls and refusing to change your outlook. If you simply just sat down and think about all the previous women, you'll notice a pattern; write a PROS and CONS list if you have to, and you'll see that they ALL have something positive/negative in common from their appearance to their personality. From there, just focus on what you want different, and you'll definitely find that girl; of course getting her is another story, but don't become misogynistic over some bad exes.
Maybe she is over-drammatic; some women do love their drama and like to believe they're living in a soap opera.
Or maybe you're just an uncaring, unsympathetic, and possibly psychopathic asshole.
Hard for anyone here to know which is actually the case.
I did speak to a few of her close GF and they told me she overthinks lots of things. Like simple things. For example, if I went to work and forgot to bring my coffee. She will try and find a reason why I did that and make a big deal about it. Instead of accepting the fact that ppl forget things lol Either way I love her to death, just trying to understand her thinking.
It's just a wild guess, but a habit of over-analysing everything and constantly "catastrophising" (obsessing about worst-case scenarios) could be due to her finding people horrendously complex and difficult to understand. Maybe that's just the way her brain was wired at birth, but I suppose it could be caused by parents who were unstable and unpredictable, or a childhood full of upheavals. It seems to me there's a suggestion of fundamental insecurity - she worries about stuff because she's afraid it's going to bite her in the ass and she wants to be prepared for that.
Or maybe she just has a hyperactive mind and there's so little significant stuff going on in her life that she fixates on trivia.
Her dad was very authoritative she mentions that she is scared of her dad. Maybe the way she was raised with a perfectionist has made her overthink all the little things?
That sounds plausible to me. Growing up knowing that everything always had to be perfect and not being entirely sure what that means in every possible situation could lead to someone being very anxious, especially about situations out of the normal.
As a father, I think it's awful that she's afraid of her dad. Loving someone who was damaged in childhood can be very challenging, but my experience is that if they're open to exploring why they are as they are, and if you're able to be supportive and understanding and you're willing to talk it through, that can help people get to a better place.
I have spoke with her dad before about this issue once we got drunk at a family gathering. He loves her to death but I think he does not know how to handle certain situations with her and instead of helping is making it worst. He recently has apologized to her for making her feel uncomfortable, I hope they change their relationship, she speak hateful of her father. Thanks for taking to me about this.