Single since 2012

It's easy to get trapped in negative and self-sabotaging loops. If you don't want a repeat of what you've experienced in the past, then you obviously don't want to do what you've done in the past. But it sounds like you've let yourself begin to believe that there's no other way, and so you're doomed to failure. And if you're destined to fail, what the hell is the point of even trying, right?

It seems clear you need to find new ways of approaching relationships and dealing with women. You need to accept that even if you make that major shift in attitudes, you're probably not going to find The One immediately (or maybe ever). You also need to accept that even if you do find someone you think is amazing, it's possible you're going to end up hurt and disappointed. Sadly, that's just the way the world works.

One thing is certain: if you stay where you are now mentally, nothing is going to change, and if you're not happy now, you're probably going to remain unhappy.

So what's the worst that can happen if you make the effort to get out there again - either IRL, or via some app? And, on the other hand, what's the best that might happen? I'm not suggesting you should do a formal risk-reward analysis, but you need to have a serious think about what you really want out of life and what you're willing to risk in pursuit of that. If you decide you want to have a solid relationship with a woman you love and respect who loves and respects you in return, then you simply have to put on your big boy pants and start looking.

And if you don't take that risk you will be single for the rest of your life!

Take risk and if you are taking risk and if you don't know for sure your girl is not doing what she is suppose to be doing make sure you are 100% sure!

I only feel dump when I fart.