If I think of all my friends, a ratio of 4:1 seem to be really codependent, and have been since adolescence. I've never had a relationship last longer than about half a year. I'm probably still pretty emotionally immature. I tend to feel very stifled in a relationship, especially after the first two months. I'm a fault finder.
Because I'm fairly independent, I don't always remember to call, and I don't like feeling obligated to do anything like that. I see the relationship itself as an authority figure to rebel against almost. I feel like society shapes the expected behaviour of two people when they're coupled. The falling for someone part, all the "first times" with a new person are SO much better for me. As soon as it's old hat, I start missing being completely my own person.
I think I'm a rarity for a male in that the reason I don't like relationships is nothing to do with sex. I can go a very long time without feeling deprived. When I get "the itch" it's more because I just want to be able to do exactly what I want when I want to, and I think that'll change the more I mature. At least, I hope it will.
I don't think I've been in love yet. Or, at the very least, I don't like throwing the word love around. I think people create love when they need it. I'm not needy. I'm lucky in that I have a very loving and close family and a very loyal and affectionate group of friends. So, when I'm single, I don't miss much about dating.
single or in a relationship better?
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If I think of all my friends, a ratio of 4:1 seem to be really codependent, and have been since adolescence. I've never had a relationship last longer than about half a year. I'm probably still pretty emotionally immature. I tend to feel very stifled in a relationship, especially after the first two months. I'm a fault finder.
Because I'm fairly independent, I don't always remember to call, and I don't like feeling obligated to do anything like that. I see the relationship itself as an authority figure to rebel against almost. I feel like society shapes the expected behaviour of two people when they're coupled. The falling for someone part, all the "first times" with a new person are SO much better for me. As soon as it's old hat, I start missing being completely my own person.
I think I'm a rarity for a male in that the reason I don't like relationships is nothing to do with sex. I can go a very long time without feeling deprived. When I get "the itch" it's more because I just want to be able to do exactly what I want when I want to, and I think that'll change the more I mature. At least, I hope it will.
I don't think I've been in love yet. Or, at the very least, I don't like throwing the word love around. I think people create love when they need it. I'm not needy. I'm lucky in that I have a very loving and close family and a very loyal and affectionate group of friends. So, when I'm single, I don't miss much about dating.