Should one apologize just for being angry?

I don't think that I should have to apologize for when I get mad (it's called out-of-control for a reason, though I don't run with it), but only for when I do things that are rude or stupid but that I was totally in control of, like being purposely mean. What do you think?

I was just in a situation like this, so it made me wonder.

Apologize? Ha! Anger deserves the determination of the righteous! 26
When angry, indulging it a little can be healthy. Don't apologize. 57
Anger will show through, like it or not. Apologize or not. 81
If you get angry, hide it. You failed. So apologize. 47
You shouldn't get angry in the first place, Mr. Spock, so apologize. 49
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Comments ( 19 )
  • SassyFrassyLassie_old

    Anger is a natural emotion and you shouldn't feel ashamed of feeling it. Don't try to control the anger, try to control your behavior when you are angry - there IS a difference between the two.

    Lashing out in anger is different and not at all appropriate in ANY situation. Only people lacking in emotional maturity call people names or put them down when when they are pissed off.

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  • Merkai

    I don't get it.
    why do people think others shouldn't be angry?
    what the hell is wrong with that sentence?!
    well, for one
    Anger, is primal, primitive, and like many things
    we claim to have outgrown, it is very much a part
    of our genetic makeup, our blueprint
    much like hormones, hunger and superficial horny'ness

    if you think people can decide to be angry or not
    or you go on youtube just to watch freak outs and tisk
    or think that this is a typical angry man
    "won't serve me chicken nuggits?!
    screw this, I'm flippin out right here, right now"
    you'd be wrong
    because that's not anger
    that's dear old stupidity overwhelming the mind
    of a once reasonable human being
    in much the same way as it does, when people say
    Stop being angry,
    you know what, stop falling in love
    Stop disliking your ex
    Stop being Happy.

    Anger is a Freaking emotion
    Its not everyday you stop and think
    "hey, Imma go fall head over tits for that one"
    No! same way people don't think
    "Imma go on a drunken rampage through the street
    which people will never let me live down,
    and you know what, this time, I gonna do it over
    the peanuts"
    So unless your truly moronic enough to believe
    that's what happens
    stop trying to make a problem go away by pointing
    fingers at people who flip out
    because most of the time, their as much ashamed
    of their actions as you are of witnessing them

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  • yellowchalk

    it depends on your actions when you were angry. if you did something WAY out of line, apologize.

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  • armyant1

    NO, because anger is normal n' everyone has anger, but if you do something really negative out of your anger, then yes, you should apologize.

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  • I apologize, I just say "sorry I was in a bad mood"

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  • mizeka

    I apologize for getting mad only when it was because I misunderstood something (like thought somebody insulted me). However, it's generally REALLY hard to get me angry.

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  • yournewBFF

    I don't think anyone should ever apologize. If they are mad they are mad for a reason. If it is like someone stated before where they misunderstood something then don't apologize and if someone is mad at you don't be indignant. Just listen through the anger and hear the main idea so you can consider it. When people are mad they tend to defilter themselves and you can hear honest opinions (along with the anger) and it gives you an opportunity to learn and grow when someone points out something stupid you might of done. Moral of the story if you get mad your mad, so be mad, but approach it directly and don't bullshit around your point with low blows. If someone is mad at you don't get mad back, listen and hear their point through their bullshit and if the advice is good advice, in your opinion, then take it.

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  • MaggotMayonnaise

    Anger is a natural emotion. Apologize to yourself, but never apologize to the person who made you angry... Never.

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  • nelfdrood

    If someone provoked you somehow and then you yelled in their face, there's nothing with a mutual apology to patch things up between you and make you both feel better.

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    • nelfdrood

      wrong*

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  • loyalroyal08

    i get so mad sometimes i dont even know what happened. i feel really disappointed that i let it take over, and i feel guilty that my friends see me in such a state and so i apologise

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  • Trismegistus

    I punish myself when I get angry.
    I'd rather harm myself before harming somebody else.When I get angry I feel bad.
    Because no matter how angry I get,people are always scarier than me.Even if they are not angry.

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  • la_uva_mojada

    Some people get angry when they should feel sad, etc and it's fairly common, and they get angry way too often. In that case, definitively one should apologize. However if your anger has good reason, (you just found out you've been cheated on, or you found out your best friend stole your money. etc etc) then you shouldn't apologize because they f'd up.

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  • fuck no!

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  • mingcongITN?

    depends whos it to and i think it shows what kinda of person you are depending on how you deal with the problem

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  • l0ve2h8

    I think you do have to appologize..if u realy did something wrong and if he/she doesn't know what he/she did than u do have to appologize..
    If u dont want to lose him/heq..i once get angry with the 1 i loved n we end up ignoring each other for 2 month so i appologize n it makes thing better...

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  • fireorchard

    Ego is never worth it. If you get angry with someone, and you know you pulled a Ren (from Ren and Stimpy, look it up kiddies), then you have to take responsibility. I have a short fuse, so I learned the hard way. I'm also a redhead, meaning I have copper conducting in my hair (look it up). If you come too close to me I might zap you. Understanding this, I am now mellow.

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  • Karass

    Wow. This is fun. Might get all viewpoints in here (I hope I covered the bases adequately). I guess I'm more of a middle-of-the-roader. Luvvvvv Mr. Spock, though.

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  • id only apologise if i done sumting rong

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