Is it normal? Absolutely. It's quite common! A lot of girls get really turned on by being naughty in public, by being told what to wear, or both. There are plenty of groups on FetLife devoted to such topics.
Perhaps she enjoys it when he tells her what sexy little dress he wants her to wear for their date night, and chooses the restaurant without telling her, so it will be a surprise when they pull up.
Perhaps he gets a thrill out of her looking very sexy, even if he isn't looking. I know that for me, if a girl is with me and she is dressed in an enticing fashion, it's exciting to me. It's exciting because she looks hot. It's exciting because she's doing it for me. It's exciting because I feel it raises my status--people looking at us think I'm a lucky guy to have such an amazing woman with me.
Additionally, I feel women are God's most beautiful creations, living works of art that are meant to be admired. Perhaps your husband feels the same way.
Of course, you might feel uncomfortable bending over in a tiny dress where people behind you get an eyeful, or doing the weeding in a bikini, or wearing an exceptionally low-cut top. Perhaps showing off isn't your fantasy. Certainly our culture teaches us that it is shameful for a woman to be immodest. If you are not comfortable with it, you are not comfortable with it.
It all boils down to communication. You and your husband should talk and share your different sexual fantasies. You should talk about how you communicate and get each other to indulge your fantasies. It's important to understand each other's limits and respect what they love doing, what they aren't super into but are ok doing, and what they are not comfortable doing. It's also important to share your concerns about feeling that sometimes he pressures you into doing things you aren't ready for. Discuss how you can both work around that.
There are some good suggestions already posted. Again, communicate. Have a heart-to-heart with your husband about what you both want and are uncomfortable with. Perhaps this is something you are absolutely not ok with, but you can find other fantasies to try together. Perhaps it's something you're not into, but will indulge in small ways sometimes to make him happy, just as you hope sometimes he'll do things that are important to you that he isn't crazy about. Perhaps if you try a slow, gentle introduction, learn more about it and experiment a little bit at a time, you'll learn to enjoy it. Who knows?
By the way, kudos to you! You are seriously considering an erotic request that is clearly really desirable to him, even though your first impulse is to dislike it. It's clear how devoted you are to having a strong marriage, turning your husband on and making him happy. You're awesome!
Should I wear revealing clothing with no underwear?
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Is it normal? Absolutely. It's quite common! A lot of girls get really turned on by being naughty in public, by being told what to wear, or both. There are plenty of groups on FetLife devoted to such topics.
Perhaps she enjoys it when he tells her what sexy little dress he wants her to wear for their date night, and chooses the restaurant without telling her, so it will be a surprise when they pull up.
Perhaps he gets a thrill out of her looking very sexy, even if he isn't looking. I know that for me, if a girl is with me and she is dressed in an enticing fashion, it's exciting to me. It's exciting because she looks hot. It's exciting because she's doing it for me. It's exciting because I feel it raises my status--people looking at us think I'm a lucky guy to have such an amazing woman with me.
Additionally, I feel women are God's most beautiful creations, living works of art that are meant to be admired. Perhaps your husband feels the same way.
Of course, you might feel uncomfortable bending over in a tiny dress where people behind you get an eyeful, or doing the weeding in a bikini, or wearing an exceptionally low-cut top. Perhaps showing off isn't your fantasy. Certainly our culture teaches us that it is shameful for a woman to be immodest. If you are not comfortable with it, you are not comfortable with it.
It all boils down to communication. You and your husband should talk and share your different sexual fantasies. You should talk about how you communicate and get each other to indulge your fantasies. It's important to understand each other's limits and respect what they love doing, what they aren't super into but are ok doing, and what they are not comfortable doing. It's also important to share your concerns about feeling that sometimes he pressures you into doing things you aren't ready for. Discuss how you can both work around that.
There are some good suggestions already posted. Again, communicate. Have a heart-to-heart with your husband about what you both want and are uncomfortable with. Perhaps this is something you are absolutely not ok with, but you can find other fantasies to try together. Perhaps it's something you're not into, but will indulge in small ways sometimes to make him happy, just as you hope sometimes he'll do things that are important to you that he isn't crazy about. Perhaps if you try a slow, gentle introduction, learn more about it and experiment a little bit at a time, you'll learn to enjoy it. Who knows?
By the way, kudos to you! You are seriously considering an erotic request that is clearly really desirable to him, even though your first impulse is to dislike it. It's clear how devoted you are to having a strong marriage, turning your husband on and making him happy. You're awesome!