Should i wear revealing clothing with no underwear?

Is it normal my husband wants me to wear revealing clothes with no underwear. He wants me to wear thin tops with no bra so my nipples show through. He also wants me in short skirts with no knickers. I’m not talking date nights, he wants me to dress this way for everyday life like going to the bank or the supermarket. I do like to please him but is this a step to far. Obviously I can say no but as a wife should I be doing this if it’s what he wants?

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  • Please do it. I'm a man who likes to look at women. I wish more husbands were like yours. I like looking at nipples that show through. I like looking at the female body. I love it when women wear revealing outfits so I can look at them. So please wear the revealing clothes with no underwear.

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  • I love exposing myself. TBH I will usually flash women who check me out. I like to give them a little peek. Either that or beaten down husbands who are stuck carrying their wife's purse at the mall. The deserve a little show. Something to picture while the fuck their wives for the billionth time. 😏

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  • In bdsm this would be called a hard limit.

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  • Sounds like a ogry waiting to happen. Hope ya marriage goes awesome lmfao

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  • I do it all the time! But it should be your decision!

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  • He is probably into pervert stuff and doesn't care much about decency. If you personally hate this and are different, you shouldn't do it. Also you should consider carefully your marriage especially when it comes to hidden things like this which are usually revealed later and can be dangerous for the relationship.

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    • Don’t get me wrong he would never force me into anything but he will certainly nag me into things. If any of you guys think you have a nagging wife, which most of you probably do, but you ain’t heard nothing compared to my husband. I don’t really hate it, I know he loves it and I like to please him, but sometimes I could do with something a bit less challenging.

      Anyway we’ve been married years, I’m 40 so his little fantasies are nothing new but not sure how much longer I should carry on fulfilling them. I mean I don’t feel old or anything and people always think I’m a lot younger but surly there comes a time when I’m too old for all that. I also sometimes feel a bit narked the fact that as the woman I’m always the one having to carry out these little games. He can sit there all warm and comfy in his man clothes and I’m feeling cold and vulnerable to preying eyes. One time it was winter and he had me lying in the snow naked so he could get photos of me, one of which now hangs on our bedroom wall. Sometimes I just think it should be him getting half his clothes off in a public place, but of course that will never happen.

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      • When do you think you'll be too old for sex?

        You might well get too old for his games, but I don't know if that's about your chronological age, or just the amount of time you've been with the same guy hearing the same stuff.

        Maybe you need to up your game. Tell him you're going to get a cock-cage if he doesn't start to behave himself.

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      • I personally believe that nagging you is still a form of using force. Force isn't just brute force, it's also manipulation. If you are unwilling to do something, you shouldn't do it and pushing you into doing it is just as wrong as using brute force. I am young and I am not married, but I personally find your husband abusive. I wouldn't do this to my partner, precisely because of the discomfort. I think it's unfair for you and you seem to be unhappy. In your situation, I would insist on rejection and see how far things can go. If you notice that he insists so much that you have no choice, it means that you are abused. Always accepting and tolerating things is bad because you don't find out who your partner truly is. And you also end up accepting a lot of stuff you don't really want and this leads to unhappiness. My advice is learn how to say "no" and do it everytime you feel this way. Do not accept or tolerate this anymore.

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  • I love how your husband thinks yes

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  • I don't agree to that ,u can be conservative and be sexy too ,if u show less skin people will respect u

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  • It's your body. You make the decision. To me it looks like he wants to show you off as some sort of trophy.

    If he truly loves you he will let you decide. And don't do it because you love him. In the end it's what YOU want and are comfortable with.

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  • If you do happen to do it . Do it because you love him

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    • I certainly wouldn't do anything like that for him if I didn't love him.

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  • You can make yourself sexy without being revealing,u can wear a skirt ,shorts,a tanktop,or a nighty that wouldn't be so bad or u could even sleep nude ,he will enjoy that !!!

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  • Sounds like some poor cunt will get shot in this relationship

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  • I get it if he wants me to dress that way because we are having a romantic evening out, though it’s still a bit daunting. But why does he want me to dress like this to go to the supermarket etc. He says it is a big turn on knowing I’m doing the shopping dressed this way but I don’t really get it. Can any of the men out there explain this to me!

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    • Oh, hell, you seriously expect a rational explanation of how screwed up us guys can be when it comes to shit like this?

      It might be the taboo thing.

      It could be the risk thing.

      It could be because, in your guy's head, women who don't wear underwear are slutty, and he likes the idea of you being slutty.

      It could be because he has fantasies of having sex with you in public, and if you don't have knickers on, this would make it a more plausible possibility.

      It could be because he thinks you're sexy as hell, and you're his, and he wants other guys to see what a bloody sexy woman he's married to.

      It could be because he thinks it would turn you on at some level, and he either just likes the idea of you being turned-on, or he hopes this will benefit him in fairly obvious ways.

      It could be because he wants to see you as a woman who's comfortable with her own sexuality.

      There are probably a few dozen more possibilities that haven't immediately occurred to me.

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      • OMG I thought us women could be devious but I never really considered there could be so many different reasons. Thanks for your insight into the male brain X

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  • Is it normal? Absolutely. It's quite common! A lot of girls get really turned on by being naughty in public, by being told what to wear, or both. There are plenty of groups on FetLife devoted to such topics.

    Perhaps she enjoys it when he tells her what sexy little dress he wants her to wear for their date night, and chooses the restaurant without telling her, so it will be a surprise when they pull up.

    Perhaps he gets a thrill out of her looking very sexy, even if he isn't looking. I know that for me, if a girl is with me and she is dressed in an enticing fashion, it's exciting to me. It's exciting because she looks hot. It's exciting because she's doing it for me. It's exciting because I feel it raises my status--people looking at us think I'm a lucky guy to have such an amazing woman with me.

    Additionally, I feel women are God's most beautiful creations, living works of art that are meant to be admired. Perhaps your husband feels the same way.

    Of course, you might feel uncomfortable bending over in a tiny dress where people behind you get an eyeful, or doing the weeding in a bikini, or wearing an exceptionally low-cut top. Perhaps showing off isn't your fantasy. Certainly our culture teaches us that it is shameful for a woman to be immodest. If you are not comfortable with it, you are not comfortable with it.

    It all boils down to communication. You and your husband should talk and share your different sexual fantasies. You should talk about how you communicate and get each other to indulge your fantasies. It's important to understand each other's limits and respect what they love doing, what they aren't super into but are ok doing, and what they are not comfortable doing. It's also important to share your concerns about feeling that sometimes he pressures you into doing things you aren't ready for. Discuss how you can both work around that.

    There are some good suggestions already posted. Again, communicate. Have a heart-to-heart with your husband about what you both want and are uncomfortable with. Perhaps this is something you are absolutely not ok with, but you can find other fantasies to try together. Perhaps it's something you're not into, but will indulge in small ways sometimes to make him happy, just as you hope sometimes he'll do things that are important to you that he isn't crazy about. Perhaps if you try a slow, gentle introduction, learn more about it and experiment a little bit at a time, you'll learn to enjoy it. Who knows?

    By the way, kudos to you! You are seriously considering an erotic request that is clearly really desirable to him, even though your first impulse is to dislike it. It's clear how devoted you are to having a strong marriage, turning your husband on and making him happy. You're awesome!

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  • Make sure you shave or wax. And if you get close to someone in the shop bend over so your pussy touches them. Then ya man will think twice and make him suffer. Power of the pussy

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  • I think this should be restricted to around the house, or at a push, date nights where your man is there to protect you at all times should some asshole try anything funny.

    Just doing it on an everyday basis would not only be epically stupid and dangerous (potentially ending in rape) but it would also kill the excitement for your man because it would become the norm to see you like that.

    You should only dress like that when you feel like treating him to a wild, passionate night of hot sex.




    On the other hand, it would make it much easier to go to the bathroom...

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    • I said pretty much the same thing to him, although not worried about being attacked, we don’t live in a dangerous area like that. Maybe at night I would be scared to go out alone like that but not in the day. He sees it that we’ve done all that at home. I’ve even done the whole take my knickers off sitting in a fancy restaurant thing. Been to the cinema with nothing on under my coat a few times, he even made me take it off once during the film. I’ve worn a remote controlled vibrator to Christmas dinner at his parents which he turned on half way through the main course. These are all his fantasies and I’ve done them all for him but it’s like, whatever he comes up with he goes on and on until I agree but then he has to push it further the next time.

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      • I think he's trying to push your boundaries. If you don't consent to it, he's commiting a felony by keeping on going with it. Be firm with him and if he carries on, go to the police.

        You should never do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. If you have any concerns about your own personal welfare when out in public due to your husband's requests, you shouldn't feel forced to follow through on them.

        Consent, consent, consent!

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  • You are free to wear whatever you want and sounds so hot if you are a girl XD!

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    • Of course I’m a girl and yes I’m not saying I’m being forced. I’m just reluctant but wonder should I try it if it will make my husband happy!

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      • Don't do it, you could get attacked. Your husband is am idiot.

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        • You are right. Its fine as long as she only does it inside her and her husband's house. Out door is a dangerous matter I agree with you on that, though I have no right to say what my girl wears out door, but i would feel unsafe if she goes outside wearing that (not because I am controlling or anything but cause I care for her safety), but she is sensible and doesn't do that on her own and am glad for her. Then again most of the time we are inside the hose we wear nothing at all XD...

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          • I don’t feel worried about being attacked. Where we live that’s not really an issue. But I would feel self conscious and uncomfortable. I’m not really worried about having no knickers on. I regularly don’t bother with them anyway, although I do if I’m wearing a short skirt. But I’m not so sure about having my nipples on display under my top.

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      • Then go for it, i love it when my girl wears seductive cloths for me <3, your man would like it if you do it too...

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  • The only time I would recommend clothes without underwear is if you're certain nothing with accidentally be shown.

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    • I guess that’s kinda the whole point. He wants me to accidentally give someone a flash of my pussy or bare arse. He also wants me to be standing in the same place long enough for someone to realise I’m not wearing a bra and they can see my boobs through my top. I still don’t understand why this turns him on but apparently it does.

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      • Ask him if he wants a big Aussie fella to take care of you.

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        • Think I’ll pass on that, showing off a bit of boob or a flash of fanny is one thing but I ain’t about to start sleeping around.

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          • All I can say your relationship won't last its like he's treating you to fall flat on ya face

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            • Maybe it won’t but we’ve managed 20 years together so far, been married 18 so we’re not doing to bad. 💏

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      • I use to be with a lady that in no way was a slut, but one time we went to a bar her wearing a tight mini skirt with, a low cut blouse with no bra on.. BUT I WAS READY TO BREAK ANYBODYS JAW IF THEY TRIED TO FLIRT OR TOUCH HER

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      • As I said, I do this all the time and have never felt frightened. Many times I will get stopped by men to just give me a compliment. To me, it has become a compulsion. I never miss an opportunity to expose myself...it's a turn on for me. It is risky, but to me, the rush I get is worth the risk. Good luck on whatever you decide.

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  • If you don't want to do it, then no. You shouldn't do something you're uncomfortable with. However, if you do actually want to then there's probably no harm in it.

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  • No, if you're not comfortable doing this then you shouldn't.

    If he has this fantasy and you want to help but are nervous, try wearing things like this while the two of you are out of town where no one knows you.

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    • Thats actually a really good idea. We are going away for a week next month, rented a cottage in Cornwall, I might try and reach a compromise with him. I will tell him I will do the whole week if he shuts up about it before and after. He will still go on about it after even if he promises not to but it will give me chance to have a few weeks peace and an opportunity to build up my confidence while we are away. Thank you

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