Should i tell her, or just get the fuck out?

I cheated on my live-in girlfriend a few weeks ago. I picked up some drunken barfly while my girl was at the hospital with her mom. Heart attack. Her mom is going to be ok. So now I got the beginning stages of herpes. And it is starting to show. I'm thinking of leaving my girl a note and moving out. Kind of cowardly, but at least she'll know to get treatment. Me? I'm outta here. Don't need the hassle of confrontation with my girl and her family. You know? Is this a normal way to deal with this dilemma? Do most guys in this situation choose this way out? Yeah, I'm being a total douche, but what the fuck?

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  • Man, you messed up. But I guess you already know that. But running away might just be adding on another mistake. Hard as it sounds, I'd tell your gf.. She may forgive you and want to stay together. She also may have a bad reaction and want you out. Either way, at least you haven't made things worse.

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  • Well, Now that you have been told your the lowest form of life that exist on this earth here's my advice as a dude. There is no good way to break the news so take the path of least resistance BUT make sure your girlfriend gets the information to get tested and or get treatment, (letter is probably one way). Good luck and wrap that nasty muscle from now on so you don't have to ruin someone else's life.

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  • Why are you on here asking this question when unless you're completely brain dead you MUST know that the right thing to do is to tell her so she can get medical advice ASAP?

    And then get out of her life, have "I have herpes" tattooed on your forehead and look forward to a life of celibacy as a result of one stupid mistake. I bet you didn't use a condom, did you?

    I don't know what the law is where you live, but in some countries you can be charged with a criminal offence if you have sex with someone and infect them with anything you knew you had and didn't tell them about

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  • It's funny how guys like this get laid soooo much. Well I guess he won't be getting laid much anymore, but still, if he didn't get herpes he probably would.

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  • you really fucked up big time and I bet you are wishing you were loyal to her now with your disease on the rise .. I would tell her to seek medical testing and possible treatment because of your fucking mistake and then leave to go live your worthless life

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  • Well since you suggest more than once that you know it isn't normal, calling it cowardly and saying it makes you a douche and all, I am not sure why you are even asking.

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  • If you don't deal with it maturely now, you will have to deal with it in some other form at some other point of your life (if even just as a regret). She will at least have some respect for you if you have the talk with her. Just prepare her for the terrible news and expect to get a thorough verbal and possibly physical lashing. You deserve it. She deserves it to at least have that. Besides, you will need the practice telling females if you ever want a chance at having girlfriend again. I hope you learned your lesson and decide to take responsibility for your actions, ya pussy douche.

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  • One thing I'm sure is that you have to tell her and the sooner the better. Oral or genital herpes? You know that there is no cure and that the only way treatment is taking antiviral to avoid spreading it. There are a lot pf people who live with herpes and do not even know it. Maybe I have it and do not even know. :/

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  • I really appreciate a question from a total narcissistic coward. Even asking this question brings into question you usefulness to the human race as a whole.

    I'll tell you what, while you go into the other room and put your skirt on, give me her telephone number and I will call her you disease ridden biscuithead. I've seen ants with bigger balls than you have.

    No, you are not a total douche, you aren't anywhere near that standard of excellence!

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  • Medical attention is Kind of secondary to the infection. Once you are infected with a herpes simplex you are totally fucked. It alters your skin cells on a molecular level. They have treatments that help. But u can't get rid of it even if u identify it before the first eruption. Which is highly unlikely. And a few weeks ago, that's the perfect incubation time for such an infection to show. You got the herps man. Do us all a favor. Kill the bar skank, ether ur GF and tattoo HERPESVIRUS on her forehead in OE. And then shoot yourself.

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      ████████ knew someone with a similar situation
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      ████████████████████████████████ 3 weeks later,
      oozing pustules. Really ████████ing disgusting.
      ████████ was so much better off without her.
      But I do miss her schnitzel.

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      • I'm ■■■■■ to hear that. She did have some pretty ■■■■■■■ schnitzel.

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  • Yeah, I agree. That you are indeed a cowardly total douche, there is no doubt. That you won't own up to your actions and the repercussions of your asinine behavior, further shows you to be a person (not really a man at all, it seems) of low character and little worth. Run away with your tail between your legs,like the cur you are.
    I hope the girl sues the shit out of you for all her medical bills and the lifelong pain and suffering you have caused her, because you couldn't keep your little dick in your pants like a responsible adult.
    You deserve a good beat down, and a very long stay in the hospital recovering.

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