Should i stay or should i go now

Go.

Your baby comes 1st. Your 2nd, I wouldn’t even rate her as 3rd. I’ve been there myself. I have 6 kids, and was basically enabling a person who had threatened to kill her self if I left because life wouldn’t have been worth living on numerous occasions. The very first time she put herself before my babies she was gone. I recorded her threatening herself and others showed it to the cops and got her a padded room where she could get help. You can’t help everyone.

I understand brain injuries, and ptsd (I’m there too) and it’s the best thing all the way around, for everyone involved.

As the parent of a very young child, your primary responsibility is to do the best you can to ensure his physical and emotional well-being. Your happiness should come second. Your girlfriend's wishes and her well-being should be a far distant third on your list of priorities.

Can you honestly say your son is growing up in an environment where he's learning how loving adults should interact? What precisely are you getting out of the relationship with your girlfriend? From what you say, it sounds like she's giving you nothing but abuse. Do you like that at some level because you feel you're a worthless, despicable person?

You can't heal your girlfriend and it sounds like she's convinced you're not doing anything positive for her, so why the hell are you two together?

It's pretty clear that you and your girlfriend both have serious issues, but who I feel really sorry for here is your child. Frankly, it sounds like you're setting him up for a pretty screwed up life. You're not going to get any really useful advice here on how you can start to sort out your life so you can be a better parent and a more content person. You really need to seek out someone who can give you well-informed advice on how you can deal with the emotional and practical aspects of extracting yourself from a toxic relationship and start to move forward with your life.

So here's an update for everyone. I finally left after a little bit of a messy breakup. I found out that she had spent half of our savings on clothes, bags, and accessories. I found this out shortly after she totalled my car and confessed to using the insurance money to pay for other bills she had racked up also behind my back. This obviously leading to removal of her driving privileges by the state. I'm currently living out of a motel room with my son using the money I had in my wallet and help from friends and family to find a job closer to my support system.

The best option is to leave her. I know it may seem hard because of what she is going through, but you have to realize how important the safety of you and your child is. It’s for the best.

Leave her dude. I would continue telling your child nice things about her even if she says bad things about you. I imagine you'll be compassionate with it. If finances are an issue then take care of that because she seems like the kind who will try and fuck you for leaving her, but if that's not a problem then lay some foundations and try and get her a safety net so that when you leave she'll have something. If that's impossible though then do what you must.

Save yourself and your child. She sounds really messed up and is using you. You don't have to feel responsible for her. Just go!